sadgirl101 Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 Anyone have any hints or tips? I've barely eaten anything in almost a week...every time I think about this guy my stomach gets all queasy so eating sounds awful.
mtnbiker3000 Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 It will come. I lost about 20 pounds after my BU. I used to weigh 210 and dropped to about 192. So, at least that was cool cuz I should weigh closer to 185-190... But, after about 2 - 2.5 months I was eating and sleeping regularly again... 1
andilyn1 Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 I totally can relate. It's been a couple weeks since my breakup, and I struggle to even eat one full meal a day. What's helped me is to graze basically throughout the day. I'll have a banana, then maybe a few crackers later, or a piece of toast. Just really small things throughout the day. Most importantly, make sure to keep yourself hydrated. Just try your best to get some food in you. Easier said than dine, I know since I'm right there with you.
Legatus Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 I know it's nothing to be cheerful about but I've felt exactly the same until a week or so ago! I think the best is to go out and have a meal with a friend(s). It's a multi-win: you get some quality time, stop thinking about the other person, you get your humour back, along with appetite, and it's rude not to eat while going out for a meal, obviously 1
AppleFudge Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 It's impossible to tell I haven't had an appetite for a month and a half now, that's how long it's been since we broke up. Throughout that time, I've only eaten one meal a day, sometimes not even finishing it. I then spent 5 days on the juice diet, in which you drink 4 blended juices a day for 5 days, its a detox and I figured if I've lost my appetite I may as well have a little health kick! It didn't bring my hunger back though in the end, and now I'm back to tiny portions a day The worst part is knowing that if I ever got another chance with my ex boyfriend, I would probably be so happy, I'd eat everything! I hope it gets better for you, I know what it feels like right now. I think maybe even a part of me was happy that I had some control over not wanting to eat... some willpower... but we can't starve ourselves forever right!
forgetmenot75 Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 It will come back slowly Same with the sleeping patterns. your brain now is suffering because you are breaking an habit, the habit of being with your ex. Don't force yourself, let your body heal naturally. Stay hydrated. You'll be fine
Author sadgirl101 Posted July 1, 2013 Author Posted July 1, 2013 I keep feeling like I'm doing okay - going NC, trying to accept that I will never really know why he did this - and then I sit down and try to eat lunch and it's like I'm starting all over again! Boo. Guess I'll just wait it out.
lostcoast Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 I lost a good ten pounds real quick after my BU that I didn't have to give away. I was supet fit an all the weight loss was bad.. I finally ended up buying protein shakes after two months and those have started to help.
forgetmenot75 Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 Protein shakes are awesome when your stomach is close and you just can't out some solid food on it. Besides, htey have some vitamins and minerals that will give you more energy.
Legatus Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 I second that! I lost about 20 pounds in the last month, which, I think will actually be beneficial once I start going to the gym a little bit! Protein shakes give you enough fuel for your body and you don't feel like you eat a lot.. But eventually you have to start eating something better
andilyn1 Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 I also have lost weight since the breakup. About 10-12lbs already in just two weeks. Not good. But hey, I wanted to drop a few pounds anyway, just was envisioning it happening in a different way than this
Author sadgirl101 Posted July 1, 2013 Author Posted July 1, 2013 I've lost 6 in 6 days...but I'm sure as soon as I start eating again I'll gain it all back, haha. I also stopped going to the gym because I sprained my ankle...not good.
athousandquestions Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 I lost 10 pounds when during the BU very quickly, and I didn't really have any to lose in the first place (I work out daily but also stopped during the pain of the breakup for 2 weeks) My appetite has still not completely come back. I'm a month post BU and am NOT hungry at all. I will completely forget to eat for days at a time. I went 3 days without any food during the beginning. Anytime I would eat, I would feel extremely nauseous. I will still forget to eat and I eat significantly less than I did before. What I did to 'make' myself eat, and what I'm going to continue to do until I'm back to normal is actually force yourself to eat. I don't know what your eating pattern is like right now, but because I was going days without food certain foods were really hard on my empty stomach. I wake up earlier than normal. Force yourself to get up, walk around the block. Get your body up and moving. Come home and make yourself breakfast - something that you LOVE having. I love scrambled eggs and smoothies. That's what I have. Sit there and make yourself eat. It's gonna suck but do it. For a few days I made myself just eat breakfast every day until it didn't hurt my stomach anymore, and I could do it without thinking. Repeat with your other meals/snacks. In my experience it is better to force yourself to get back on track than wait for it to happen, especially because I was eating so little! I suggest physical activity as well but it's difficult to maintain physical activity if you are not eating enough (especially for me as I am anemic and have heart/blood sugar issues that lead me to get lightheaded if I am not eating properly)
flitzanu Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 i want to get dumped so i can lose 15 lbs. but seriously, just give it time, your body will tell you what it needs and when it needs it.
jabbzy64 Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 it takes time... I lost 10 kg's from not eating after a break up. took me a month to get hunger cravings again. time is the healer in these situations. The way to a guy's heart is definitely through his stomach.. lol.
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