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Hi everybody. This is my first post. I’ve decided to create an account here because I’m in my first relatioship and it’s been really hard for me to understand certain things. I’m 16, by the way.

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for almost 7 months. He kissed me in his birthday party 7 months ago and then we started dating, though he was aware that I didn’t love him and I was just curious how it would be. I’ve broken up twice with him. I don’t think it’s because I don’t like him. I think I was very insecure he would leave me. Now, I know I love him. And he knows that.

He’s cold sometimes. I’m always the one asking to meet him and he’s always busy. Sometimes he makes time for me and he’s really sweet. But I get annoyed how he’s always busy. For exemple, yesterday at night I asked him to come over my house today (he lives 30 min from here). He didn’t make a sound for like 3 seconds, and then he said: “That’s not how it works.” But it is as simple as taking the bus or asking his mom to leave him in my house if he wanted to be with me. He had this work when holidays started, but he gave up. So I didn’t see him for almost 3 weeks during that time (between having to study for the exams, and work which only lasted 3 days). On Friday we went on a date but it was a bit boring...we were both tired. I wanted to meet him before he starts his new work on wednesday, but he doesn’t seem to want to meet me. On the other hand, he always includes me in his future plans and naturally talks about what we’ll do when we have children. I guess I’m more needy than him. And I’m unhappy because I wanted him to make something romantic for me, which he never does. I wanted him to want and need me. I love him, but I’ve tried several times to understand how independente he is and to cope with it, but sometimes I just don’t know if he loves me, or if he just needs me. By the way, he rarely pays attention and comments any situation I tell about my life. It’s always about him. Can anybody help me understand what’s going on? I’m very confused. But at the same time I don't like needy man at all.

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why did you get into a relationship with him given the distance you two are and the lack of car to take you between each other?

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in the beggining i obviously didn't think about that ... i just wanted to try. But it's been difficult now that I've fallen in love.

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