Bealena Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 Hello LS, I desperately need your help :-$ I am a 31 year old female and came out of a long, serious, complicated relationship 2 years ago. I haven't really been dating since. My problem? I'm sh*t scared of dating. The only dates I've been on since are those set up by friends. Online dating, speed dating, meeting new people on my own (friends are all in relationships) terrifies me. I booked myself on to things and I just don't go because I irrationally scared. What am I scared of? Not sure!? I'm ok around men, I can hold conversations, I'm not bad looking, my dress sense is ok. My free time is now work and hanging around at home, hanging with friends and the gym. Anybody got any advice for getting out of this rut? I'm sure its pretty simple but I just beat myself up and no progress is ever made. Please help! B
Legatus Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 Although I am only 25 I had my relationship finished and have been thinking about dating for a while now. I didn't want to start to soon, as I do not want a rebound - I really want to find someone to spend some quality time. But I'm scared too. I am quite socially flexible, I can fit in peoples circles, or be on my own if I need quiet time, but dating is like totally other dimension for me.. If we were in a dream world - how/when/where would you like to meet new people?
Author Bealena Posted July 1, 2013 Author Posted July 1, 2013 Thank you for your reply. It's always nice to know I'm not alone In an ideal world - I'd like to meet someone at work or through friends. But that hasn't happened.
Phantom888 Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 Don't look at it as "dating". Try to expand your social circles via meetups and group activities. Make new friends, and have fun. You will find your man when you least expect it. Your fear is in your head. You can control how you see things. It's not really dating if you are having a good time with nice people in a comfortable environment. Start with that.
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