therhythm Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 (edited) Last Friday I went to a concert (my brother plays in a band), the concert was cool and I had really lots of fun. After the concert my friends and I decided to join my brother, his girlfriend and some friends of his girlfriend and go to a club in Amsterdam. For most of the time while in there I was dancing and having fun with a girl (one of the friends of my brother's girlfriend)... just the normal flirty games and some dancing, maybe a couple of kisses but nothing really over the top... When I went to the bar to get some drinks my brother came along and asked me to be careful with the girl because she had been in love with me for months :eek: I was in shock and quite turned off... I had never talked to that girl in the past, I even didn't know her name... I knew she was a friend of my brother's girlfriend but that was all... My question is... how can you love or be in love with someone you don't know? How can you love someone you have only seen from the distance? Edited July 1, 2013 by therhythm
KungFuJoe Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 Last Friday I went to a concert (my brother plays in a band), the concert was cool and I had really lots of fun. After the concert my friends and I decided to join my brother, his girlfriend and some friends of his girlfriend and go to a club in Amsterdam. For most of the time while in there I was dancing and having fun with a girl (one of the friends of my brother's girlfriend)... just the normal flirty games and some dancing, maybe a couple of kisses but nothing really over the top... When I went to the bar to get some drinks my brother came along and asked me to be careful with the girl because she had been in love with me for months :eek: I was in shock and quite turned off... I had never talked to that girl in the past, I even didn't know her name... I knew she was a friend of my brother's girlfriend but that was all... My question is... how can you love or be in love with someone you don't know? How can you love someone you have only seen from the distance? Ok...for starters, I hope you realize that this isn't love...it's just a crush or an infatuation, nothing more. And this turned you off? C'mon...you've never had a girl crush on you before? I can't say that I've ever been turned off by a girl that was openly infatuated with me...I always find it cute and flattering. 1
pteromom Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 my brother came along and asked me to be careful with the girl because she had been in love with me for months :eek: He just meant she had a crush on you. Obviously she isn't in love with you. I take his warning to "be careful" as... if you are just looking for something casual, she's not the person to do it with since she is really into you. 4
Author therhythm Posted July 1, 2013 Author Posted July 1, 2013 Ok...for starters, I hope you realize that this isn't love...it's just a crush or an infatuation, nothing more. And this turned you off? C'mon...you've never had a girl crush on you before? I can't say that I've ever been turned off by a girl that was openly infatuated with me...I always find it cute and flattering. Yes, I have had people having crush on me and I have had crush on someone but I knew those people... I never had a crush on someone I have seen maybe 3 times in my whole life... Maybe it came to me in a wrong way but yes... it turned me off... I am sick of not being able to just enjoy myself without people reading wrong signals from me... I am very cautious with whom I have a romance (not love) and this kind of signals are a big "no no".
Author therhythm Posted July 1, 2013 Author Posted July 1, 2013 He just meant she had a crush on you. Obviously she isn't in love with you. I take his warning to "be careful" as... if you are just looking for something casual, she's not the person to do it with since she is really into you. The marked bold is what I meant with a turn off... and for me nothing can become serious if it was not casual before... if you understand what I mean. 1
Author therhythm Posted July 1, 2013 Author Posted July 1, 2013 I think she exaggerated a bit and was just fascinated/intrigued with you. C'mon dude, you have plenty of girls fighting over you, not like this is some huge deal to call it a turnoff, is it? Or is it that you have so many of them fighting for you that you have to put extra criteria in place? I don't know if you are being sarcastic or not, but actually my problem comes for having various FWB which ended in drama since they wanted more that I wanted to give even though the terms of the arrangement were clear from the very beginning.
pteromom Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 The marked bold is what I meant with a turn off... and for me nothing can become serious if it was not casual before... if you understand what I mean. I understand that, and it makes sense. It's like any interaction with her comes with this huge pressure to meet her expectations and give her what she wants from you. Definitely can see how that would be a turn-off, especially if you are "meh" about her. 1
amaysngrace Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 She's psycho? That what I think it means. Just let her have her way with you. 2
Author therhythm Posted July 1, 2013 Author Posted July 1, 2013 She's psycho? That what I think it means. Just let her have her way with you. No thank you, I have had already my fair share of problems with stalkers I don't want to give any potential one any chance to become one
amaysngrace Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 No thank you, I have had already my fair share of problems with stalkers I don't want to give any potential one any chance to become one Let her have her way with you then get a restraining order. She's probably a freak in the bed. 3
Author therhythm Posted July 1, 2013 Author Posted July 1, 2013 Let her have her way with you then get a restraining order. She's probably a freak in the bed. Now you are getting me tempted :lmao:
amaysngrace Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 Now you are getting me tempted :lmao: Good. Now here is the plan...and she won't stalk you later. After sex tell her to get her things and go home cause you're not into cuddling. 2
Author therhythm Posted July 1, 2013 Author Posted July 1, 2013 Good. Now here is the plan...and she won't stalk you later. After sex tell her to get her things and go home cause you're not into cuddling. After or before than asking her to prepare me the breakfast? :lmao:
amaysngrace Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 After or before than asking her to prepare me the breakfast? :lmao: Probably after but don't let her eat any of your food! She may think that's a date. 2
Author therhythm Posted July 1, 2013 Author Posted July 1, 2013 Probably after but don't let her eat any of your food! She may think that's a date. Ohh i may let her eat the left overs if she clean the dishes before she leaves
amaysngrace Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 Ohh i may let her eat the left overs if she clean the dishes before she leaves You should make her do laundry and clean the bathroom too. Then ask for a massage. 1
Author therhythm Posted July 1, 2013 Author Posted July 1, 2013 You should make her do laundry and clean the bathroom too. Then ask for a massage. Wait a second... is this not a marriage already??? :lmao:
amaysngrace Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 Wait a second... is this not a marriage already??? :lmao: No and that's the beauty of it!!! 1
Author therhythm Posted July 1, 2013 Author Posted July 1, 2013 No and that's the beauty of it!!! Are you sure you are not a man? You understand me so good that is scary
amaysngrace Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 Are you sure you are not a man? You understand me so good that is scary If I was a man my eyes would be closed and my hand would be too busy to type :/ 2
Author therhythm Posted July 1, 2013 Author Posted July 1, 2013 If I was a man my eyes would be closed and my hand would be too busy to type :/ I don't know how being a woman prevents you for doing that
MissBee Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 Last Friday I went to a concert (my brother plays in a band), the concert was cool and I had really lots of fun. After the concert my friends and I decided to join my brother, his girlfriend and some friends of his girlfriend and go to a club in Amsterdam. For most of the time while in there I was dancing and having fun with a girl (one of the friends of my brother's girlfriend)... just the normal flirty games and some dancing, maybe a couple of kisses but nothing really over the top... When I went to the bar to get some drinks my brother came along and asked me to be careful with the girl because she had been in love with me for months :eek: I was in shock and quite turned off... I had never talked to that girl in the past, I even didn't know her name... I knew she was a friend of my brother's girlfriend but that was all... My question is... how can you love or be in love with someone you don't know? How can you love someone you have only seen from the distance? You can't. You can be infatuated with, have a crush on and even be obsessed with them...but love, how I conceive of it, requires really knowing someone. I am leery of men who profess love when they don't know me well....they always end up being clingy and crazy. In any case though, your brother might have just been using a hyperbole. I say all the time "I'm in love with so and so" and "I'm in love with this and that" but it's totally a hyperbole and not me actually being seriously in love with this person or thing. My assumption would be that your brother just means she's had a crush on you and not that she is in fact declaring she is actually in love with you. 1
KungFuJoe Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 Yes, I have had people having crush on me and I have had crush on someone but I knew those people... I never had a crush on someone I have seen maybe 3 times in my whole life... Maybe it came to me in a wrong way but yes... it turned me off... I am sick of not being able to just enjoy myself without people reading wrong signals from me... I am very cautious with whom I have a romance (not love) and this kind of signals are a big "no no". Just because YOU are not able to crush in someone so quick doesn't mean someone else isn't able to. You sound very "uppity" in your post. Seriously you're coming off as a major douche (even though i dont think you are from your other posts) and I think I can hear the loud "clap" of every person in LS collectively smacking their foreheads. 1
KungFuJoe Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 One day, when I was a senior in high school, I was leaving the gym after basketball practice and I saw this really cute girl hanging around the entrance. I'm talking cute like "wow how come I never saw her before???". I was immediately smitten and I walked over to her not even knowing why. I wasn't going to speak to her (I was pretty shy back then), I just HAD to be near her. Well, she saw me, offered me some of her jelly beans, we spoke maybe four or five sentences together and I went on my way. I was in such a daze I didn't even think to ask her name. I crushed on her SOOOOO hard from that one initial meeting. Just could not stop thinking about her. Never had I been so infatuated with a girl from so little contact. Turns out, I found out years later that she had the same crush on me from that first encounter...but she had a bf so she didn't do anything about it. What happened with that girl? We're now married and she's the woman I'm constantly raving about and sickening other LS posters with. To this day, 14 years later, we still feel that spark between us that we felt when we first met. Sappy, I know...but true. Instant attraction and crushes are very possible and very real. 3
Author therhythm Posted July 1, 2013 Author Posted July 1, 2013 Just because YOU are not able to crush in someone so quick doesn't mean someone else isn't able to. You sound very "uppity" in your post. Seriously you're coming off as a major douche (even though i dont think you are from your other posts) and I think I can hear the loud "clap" of every person in LS collectively smacking their foreheads. I guess we all act in different situations in a different way depending on our life experiences... I have had big difficulties with stalkers in the past and I just didn't like the sound of it how it came to me. I guess this has stayed in the back of my head and therefore I have made a thread about it, I wanted to hear what other people had to say about it. It may sounds bad to you, other posters thought differently. I am sorry if it didn't came to you in the right way, I am not pretending to be a douche but I can't control what kind of image each of my posts give of me to different people, my posts are the reflection of what I think and I am not pretending everyone to like them, I am not writing to be liked but to expose what is in my head at that exact moment.
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