applechic26 Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 For the past two weeks, my man and I have been getting in constant fights. I feel really bad because it is my fault most of the time. I have been suffocating him and probably pushing him away. I love him so much and thats the last thing I want to do. I need some advice. We went to a bar the other night and I freaked out just because he was talking to some other girls. I overreacted and started yelling at him. I just get very jealous. I feel that if I'm with him all the time then I can control what goes on and what he does. I do not want to be that type of girlfriend because I know it can end a relationship. We decided to take a 4 day break from each other to clear the air. This is ok by me but it is killing me inside. Even last night, I drove by his house to make sure his car was there so he wasn't out with another girl. Please give me advice. I'll do anything to make this better for the both of us. Please help me.
Merin Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 Holy Cow sister, you need to relax! You need to understand that you can't (and for real shouldn't even try) to control what your boyfriend does... he is his own person, just as you are... and trying to control someone will def push them away from you. It sound's like you're feeling insecure in the relationship.. and I don't know if its due to something that happened in the relationship with him, or if it left over baggage of a previous experience... This is just really obsessive (driving to his house to make sure of what he was doing?) this isn't healthy. You need to figure out where these irrational insecurities are coming from and get a handle on them, before it ruins your relationship with your boyfriend and negatively effects your health. Good Luck
jmargel Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 Your co-dependant on him, which is not good.. Also your insecurities is playing a big part. How old are you two, and how long have you been with him? If he has not done anything for you to mistrust him, then stop acting this way. Keep re-enforcing postitive thoughts into your head when these insecurities come up.
Author applechic26 Posted October 18, 2004 Author Posted October 18, 2004 Thanks for your response. I definitely took it to heart. You'll be proud of me. Today was a good day for me. Tonight I'm hanging out with my girlfriends in the city and bringing the dog along. We'll rent some chick flicks and waste time in which I'd be "pining" over what he's doing. Thanks so much again. Your response really helped me A LOT!!
Merin Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 Originally posted by applechic26 Thanks for your response. I definitely took it to heart. You'll be proud of me. Today was a good day for me. Tonight I'm hanging out with my girlfriends in the city and bringing the dog along. We'll rent some chick flicks and waste time in which I'd be "pining" over what he's doing. Thanks so much again. Your response really helped me A LOT!! Yay! Have an awesome time with your friends;)
Author applechic26 Posted October 19, 2004 Author Posted October 19, 2004 Well, tonight he called me because i restrained myself from calling him. Pat myself on the back. He was like, "why didn't u call me?". I said I was busy. I'm not trying to play games but just give him some room to breathe. I love him and don't want to lose him to my own insecurities. We had a great talk and everything went well. Thanks for all your help.
Merin Posted October 19, 2004 Posted October 19, 2004 Originally posted by applechic26 Well, tonight he called me because i restrained myself from calling him. Pat myself on the back. He was like, "why didn't u call me?". I said I was busy. I'm not trying to play games but just give him some room to breathe. I love him and don't want to lose him to my own insecurities. We had a great talk and everything went well. Thanks for all your help. Good Girl:) You can do this sister! Thanks for the update, and keep a positive outlook.
Author applechic26 Posted October 19, 2004 Author Posted October 19, 2004 Hey, how do i upload a picture liek you have? I can't figure it out???
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