TG1 Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 If anything I am curious to know why girls like to play mind games with guys whenever they are in a relationship, I mean honestly? Because in my own experience just because I couldn't do something for my girlfriend or I couldn't come through for her the way she wanted me to, she basically puts it into my mind telling me that she is going to cheat on me, so I basically tell her that I can't be with someone who is going to cheat on me because she can't even bother to wait for me because of the thing that I couldn't come through on, and for weeks I basically stopped talking to her with no contact on my part until one day I started to talk to her out of the blue, let's just chalk it up to me being so depressed and so lonely that I talk to her but not for very long because I guess I just didn't want to deal with her so I got out of the house for a while and now she won't stop calling by basically saying that she needs to talk to me because it's urgent but whenever she does call, I'm not home because I am always out of the house nowadays because I guess I am trying to avoid her because of what she told me weeks ago basically putting that into my head that she was going to cheat on me but I don't know anymore because I am so depressed and lonely as of late But I really want a female's perspective as to why you guys like to play mind games with guys?
Author TG1 Posted July 1, 2013 Author Posted July 1, 2013 I am curious to know what all you females think
ScreamingTrees Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 In general, lots of people are just crazy. They genuinely suck. Instead of wanting to make a good thing work and enjoying it for what it is, they'd rather throw unnecessary road blocks out there and sabotage what might have been able to last for awhile, if not go the distance.. Chalk it up to physical abuse, sexual abuse, mental abuse, neglect, whatever. They probably don't actually want or even feel worthy of a sincere connection with another human being. Every person that I've known who was manipulative in some manner either had major insecurities, paranoia, a very warped sense of what "love" is or what the nature of inter-personal relations are, etc.. Who knows how their minds have been warped in this way. Not your place to be concerned, really. Not anyone's but their own. Good on you for getting rid of her, though. 2
fortyninethousand322 Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 Maybe some girls are big Foreigner fans... 2
Author TG1 Posted July 2, 2013 Author Posted July 2, 2013 In general, lots of people are just crazy. They genuinely suck. Instead of wanting to make a good thing work and enjoying it for what it is, they'd rather throw unnecessary road blocks out there and sabotage what might have been able to last for awhile, if not go the distance.. Chalk it up to physical abuse, sexual abuse, mental abuse, neglect, whatever. They probably don't actually want or even feel worthy of a sincere connection with another human being. Every person that I've known who was manipulative in some manner either had major insecurities, paranoia, a very warped sense of what "love" is or what the nature of inter-personal relations are, etc.. Who knows how their minds have been warped in this way. Not your place to be concerned, really. Not anyone's but their own. Good on you for getting rid of her, though. Yes I had to get rid of her but then again she won't stop calling me because she says she wants to talk to me because it's urgent but she calls and texts me on my brother's phone since I'm using my brother's phone temporarily because mine was cut off but whenever she calls or texts me, my brother always either gets the call or the texts because whenever she does try to contact me, I am always never home because I guess that is my way of avoiding her or ignoring her because she's trying to reign me in but I'm not having it
Mme. Chaucer Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 This has nothing to do with "girls." You got involved with a messed up person. Move on. 3
will1988 Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 The question is, why, as a man, do you put up with head games and drama? I don't care if you are freaking angelina jolie (well maybe her) if you are messing with my emotions and my psyche I'm going to drop you like a hot potato! 4
Author TG1 Posted July 2, 2013 Author Posted July 2, 2013 The question is, why, as a man, do you put up with head games and drama? I don't care if you are freaking angelina jolie (well maybe her) if you are messing with my emotions and my psyche I'm going to drop you like a hot potato! Why, you ask why? I will tell you why. It was because of my own stupidity but also because I loved her so damn much because I was with her on and off for almost 3 years until I finally ended it but also at the end of the day do I still love her? In some way I still do despite everything and believe me I wish I knew why I still do but I am trying to move on, trying to move on with my life without her but it is just so hard too at the same time but at the end of the day I have to for my own sanity
Author TG1 Posted July 4, 2013 Author Posted July 4, 2013 But now she won't stop calling my brother's phone and now my brother is starting to get annoyed that she keeps calling his phone trying to get to me but at the same time she should know by now to get the message that I am moving on, so what should I do now
shexy Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 We dont' all play mind games. Stop dating girls that DO play mind games. 1
JustAReformedGirl Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 It's just adorable when generalizations are made about gender. Thank you so much OP, for not seeing in black and white. ^ If you didn't catch it, that's called sarcasm. And for the record, I'm not just doing this because I'm female. I'm disgusted by generalizations made about men, as well. You haven't seen me rant at some of the Axe and Pro-Glide commercials, but I assure you, I do. Every. Single. Time. Anyways, people play mind games (in general) because a lot of them are too passive-aggressive to just come right out and say what they want. They insist on beating around the bush, because they lack the spine that is necessary for any form of confrontation involved with someone they like/care about/don't outright hate. There are probably some other reasons (I can't rule out that some of them are sadistic jerks), but IME, passive-aggressive behaviour plays a big part.
aloneinaz Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 Screaming Trees hit it on the head. Some people are just damaged from their childhood, youth or early relationships. Many folks who play games are extremely insecure. They also are typically drama queens as well. They are rarely happy or content when the relationship is going smoothly. They are continually critiquing the relationship looking for things to be un-happy about. It's like these types of people are not happy unless theirs a bunch of drama in their lives. They are also typically wired to be negative and are quick to run anyone down who wrongs them. "They so stupid, what a jack ass this person is".. The other label you can use in describing these types of people is toxic. They bring everyone around them down, don't have many close relationships w/family or friends and a list of other non-desirable traits. It's important to not that we often fall for these types of caustic/toxic personalities due to them being on their "best behavior" for the first several months of the relationship. They then get comfortable and let their hair down and this is when the $hit hits the fan. I ignored my ex's early red flags. She had no close friends only a couple of gals she knew. She complained that her family members out of state rarely called her or visited her. She played some stupid text/phone games. She held grudges over silly things vs. talking about them. I saw glimpses of a temper/anger. IDK, i was stupid. I saw she had issues but when she was on it was like a drug that I had to have. Advance 8-9 months into the relationship and she got comfortable let her hair down and all my suspicions came true. What a nightmare... 1
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