Scirok Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 I'm sorry if this is the wrong thread for this subject but I'm really hoping someone can help me this is my post from before So little background im 24 my long term relationship ended and now I've had nothing but a couple hook ups. My problem is I just don't understand why I can't get a girl to acknowledge my existence never mind a girlfriend. Don't get me wrong i have confidence but I don't see myself as an attractive guy I'm shorter 5-9 ish slightly out of shape (lost a lot of weight) but I just don't find myself attractive (I know I know) but can't help it it's the way i see myself. I'm currently working as an EMT and looking for a fire fighting job and I feel some what successful i hang around a lot of girls (friends of friends) but still I just can't seem to get any to be attracted to me I'm not shy I talk to them flirt etc but its honestly like I have a sign on my head that says don't date him its so weird I just don't know what to do I really want to start dating girls again and actually know what it feels like to be desired I reported this because I just find myself in a dark place I hate my life and its so hard to wake up every morning. I've tried the suggestions that people have tried to tell me on this site and in RL but I still feel so sad I work out everyday I have started new hobbies but my love life is just terrible it's been years now since I've been in a real relationship few flings here and there but nothing to write home about I just find myself everyday trying so hard to fake a smile around the public while I'm at work. They see this man who is strong and who is there to help people. But deep inside that man he is missserable it's just so hard because I know I need to be happy to find a girlfriend but to be happy I need a girlfriend. I'm sorry if I sound selfish I'm just tired of feeling this way i want to be happy again I want girls to not just shrug me off or look the other way I feel so unwanted if anyone could help me (if that's possible) I would be great ful
Chi townD Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 This is an easy fix, if you don't like or even love yourself, then women aren't going to like or love you. You're putting off a negative vibe. One thing you can try is having these girls, that you're friend zoned with, take you out for a "man makeover" let THEM put together a wardrobe for you, let THEM dictate a new hairstyle for you. If they suggest a facial, then do it. Doesn't sound too masculine does it? Doesn't matter, let them do it! Because, here's the deal. You become their personal project. If they're putting in the time and effort, they're going to be invested and they're going to want to see the maximum results of their efforts and after they get you dolled up the way that they want you looking. They may hook you up with their single friends because they want to be RIGHT! All women are NEVER wrong in their minds, they might be mistaken; but, NEVER WRONG! They would love the opportunity to say to themselves, " I took Scirok from looking like a bag of ass to a trendy, hot hipster and now he dating my friend Kelly. DAMN I'M GOOD!" It's the female ego boost at it's finest! 3
HopelessRomantick Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 Ok sign me up! I think this is good advice...
Author Scirok Posted July 5, 2013 Author Posted July 5, 2013 Well I Would to be more confident but it's just so hard. I'm never happy and Im always so depressed I just suck at talking to girls. I really just don't know what's wrong with me I'm ulgy but I'm not horrible. And to the dating site thing I've tried it and I think it's hurt my confidence worse countless messages with little to no responses I just wish I could become a guy that girl are interested in I don't want to be that sad guy who just lies to himself when he settles for the next thing with a pulse to be attracted to me
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