Jwuc Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 Hi everyone, I am new here and having a hard time coping with a break up. I called it quits on our 8 month relationship because I have a chronic illness and trying to nurture a relationship is next to impossible. I was enduring a lot of stress and simply couldn't take the fighting anymore. It's almost like he forgets I'm sick sometimes. Anyways, now that it's over, I'm finding it very difficult to sleep. When i fall asleep i jerk awake after two hours in full panic mode and my heart is all over the place. When this occurs, all i want to do is reach over to my phone and dial his number. Of course he would always pick up, but i really don't want to keep that as a safety net. I need to stand my ground. Don't get me wrong he was a dream come true who really was there for me in every way but I just couldn't take the stress of reassuring and doing my part in the relationship. And when you start fighting so much you start resenting the other party. But i miss him so dearly. Does anyone else experience this?? Panic attacks in your sleep or just typical panic attacks all day just getting through this? Any words of advice of how to go about this??
AppleFudge Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 Hi, I can't really relate to you all that much because the situation I'm having is pretty different. But I noticed no one had replied, and right now, no one is replying to my posts I've left all day and so I've decided to just distract myself with helping others. I've had a few panic attacks, not during my sleep though. Sometimes when I realize hes gone and may possibly never be coming back, it happens, and its scary. I just try my best to close my eyes and breathe, but sometimes I think about the good memories with him, which sometimes makes it worse. It's hard But if you miss him dearly, how come you wouldn't give it another shot? Because it sounds like you really need someone now, and maybe pushing someone away isn't the best option even if it feels times are hard. I don't know, I'm not good at this relationship stuff, I just hope the best for you and I hope you sort through this!
Babolat Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 I think the panic attacks are normal. You may need to go on some anti-anxiety meds, short term, to help. See your family dr.
Author Jwuc Posted July 1, 2013 Author Posted July 1, 2013 Thank you everyone for the advice. I couldn't continue because the nonstop fighting was too much to handle. The fights would clearly cause me stress and symptoms would flare but he didn't care how much distress I was in. He was always right. And he fought me on the small things like not holding his hand, or not calling him babe, or texting a guy friend at 3:00am( this one i completely got as it looks fishy but i have insomnia and my friend is awake late hours as he works as a security guard). But he still brings it up when i stopped doing that. He may have been there and did care for me physically and join me for my appointments but do i need to take that too? He also even doubts and questions all the symptoms i do experience. Just because he doesnt see them means i don't really have them. I can accept more the fact we fight about nonsense than i can accept someone who doesnt believe my illness. I went through years of doctors telling me theres nothing wrong with me till one doctor decided to look further and found a cause. Now to have someone who constantly says they love me not believe me, is heartbreaking. I feel like such a fraud when i never even intended to be a fraud.
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