Bunnyrabbit Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 Long story short. Hubby and I have had problems in our marriage and it's nothing to do with infidelity or such. I think we are both trying to figure out if we really are supposed to be together after thirteen years together. He took another job in another state and I was supposed to move with him but this kind of threw us for a loop when we both question our marriage. He wanted just a break but I then wanted a divorce. He felt that we were rushing into things by getting a divorce and was not for that at all. I looked into avenues to get a divorce but gave up after realizing I couldn't afford an attorney and all that. Also, I do still have feelings for him so this is very painful. I didn't want to give him a break but he's not getting what he wants. He still feels like there's a chance for us in all this and that this is not finale. Here's the thing now. Since we do our finances online I noticed a charge from a doctors visit. He knows I can check our charges so he didn't exactly hide it. I googled the dr and he was a vasectomy dr. When hubby called I asked him why he'd been to the dr. Oh, I went to enquire about a vasectomy, he tells me. Note; we never wanted kids and don't have any. But part of his crises was that the last couple of years he asked me if I was sure I didn't want kids and I said that I am. I felt on the other hand that he could go either way. So now I'm left to wonder WHY he would go and enquire about this when things are the way they are between us?? It doesn't make sense and I told him that. He told me that I'm looking into this too much and he just went for a consultation since we had decided to not have kids and he's getting older. But I can't help to think it's really strange how he would go out of his way and check on this right now. I asked him if he's planning on sleeping around and he doesn't want to get anyone pregnant?? He thought I was crazy of course and reminded me that even IF he would to sleep with anyone he would definitely protect himself but he's not even thinking about sleeping with anyone. This is more about him trying to find himself in a new city and nothing else. I do know him to be very responsible and I know he cares about his health enough to not want to risk getting anything. BUT I thought he was confused to if he wanted kids or not. Did he just realize he's not going to have them and that I won't change my mind and decides to do something about it? We are on the verge on divorce....so why now?? Is he in denial of what we're going through or what am I missing here???
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