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I think Emilia and me have the same taste in guys :lmao:

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I think Emilia and me have the same taste in guys :lmao:

:laugh: now now :laugh::laugh:

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It depends. I attract the big shouldered, tall, Italian guy that was raised in new york kinda type loud, obnoxious, player wanna be, good hearted etc etc. The nerdy but hot guy that spends most of his time at work and the rest of it at the gym lol. Shy guys, loud guys, weird guys. They all seems to have one thing in common. They are American and they like European accents lol

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This is a hard question for me because I have more than one personality so I'm not even sure which personality is my real one.

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Yeah, my persona is chameleon like, so I tend to get on with different kinds of girls, but forward girls I tend to be attracted to and they seem to respond to me because I don't really like to beat around the bush.

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Depends on what's defined as attract. As in, asked out or more?

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I get anything from shy to outgoing, young to old. Personally, not at all a fan of shy girls. I'll sacrifice on looks if it means being with someone more outgoing.

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Very interesting.

 

I'm not sure. When I am in a social setting, or, more specifically, in the presence of women I am trying to impress/attract -- I go into my "Dean" mode.

 

I actually joke with my friends when they ask how I managed to talk to so and so and ask for her number, or whatever, I say "I Deaned her bro ;)"

 

Or if they send me a text while I'm with a girl, I'll say "BRB, Deaning :p"

 

Just me messing around, but I value the cool part of my persona and so I like to put that first.

 

The only drawback to this cool method I have is, like I said, some of the girls I attract are too wild. As in, getting blackout drunk or experimenting with heavy drugs wild. They think I'm into it because I'm "cool", and the cool guys are down for anything. But that is not me. I'm not that kind of cool. I'm a free spirit but not that free. It's tough.

 

Early on, when I tried the funny angle, I would come across as too funny and silly and ultimately couldn't generate sexual attraction. It was friendsville for your boy Castle.

 

But when I'm "myself" -- I am reserved. Not shy, but more so a quiet confidence. But I can definitely see how some might take it to mean shy, so I can kind of see why shy girls think I'm a fellow shy person. I'm not.

 

I like to think I'm just the right amount of naughty. I'm not the goody goody guy, but I'm not the lying, cheating douche.

 

Man, I am reading my story MrCastel! Good to hear it from another man.

 

I am currently intertested in a shy girl, trying to stay away from the crazy wild hot model types, who seem to be attracted to my social side and my looks. Shes been a bit frustrating for me as like you I have to initiate everything. She talks a big talk about being physical, then pulls away.

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Depends on what's defined as attract. As in, asked out or more?

I took it as 'showing attraction' literally. Last Tuesday I was talking to this guy at a birthday party, he was definitely attracted to me but didn't ask me out or anything like that (married, etc, wasn't that kind of situation anyway)

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Deaned her? :laugh::lmao:

 

Anyway, for myself - I do consider myself different, I am hard to pigeon hole into one type. So when I go with my quirky persona which is more of who I am, hippies living in a commune or a hard core conspiracy theorists, or men that are into poly-amoury or drug addicts think that they have found their match. But I am not into any of that stuff. So while I find some of them interesting, I would never seriously date them.

 

My social persona is probably trying too hard to fit in, being outgoing, chatty, bubbly - that's how I get most men, they just love that personality type.

 

When I try to mix the two, it just doesn't work :/ I remember at a wedding recently, I was in my social mode, chatting to a guy but trying to be authentic with some sarcasm and quirkiness. The guy was typical normal-boring-nice guy that I seem to attract. He got NONE of my sarcastic jokes, in fact he got offended and walked away :(

 

I too am sarcastic and witty and love to play and tease. The shy ones don't get it and I think I hurt them; so I try to be more sensitive, though that's not really me.

 

My last gf, the free spirt wild soul party girl, loved my sarcasm and wit, and I loved hers; I do miss it! However on the social side we were too far apart. I like to be social and I can put on a social face "on command", just not every day and night and weekend.

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Depends on what's defined as attract. As in, asked out or more?

Asked out, general interest of a physical/mental nature etc. Switching to a more comfortable demeanor more in line with my social expression has seen a difference in the girls I've attracted on a mental level - more intellectual, organized direct etc. Was asked out by one - that was a couple days ago - and been strongly complimented and touched by others over the last couple of months. That's the other thing - they've been very tactile too.

 

I wonder if this conscious change has brought this on? I'm guessing so.

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Doesn't matter if I'm being myself or putting on an act. I never attract the kinds of women I find attractive.

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I am the conservative, strong masculine type..I am intelligent and enjoy an engaging intellectual conversation, but prefer fun witty banter over that. I never put on an act, it's really which one of me comes out when..I am a Gemini, so I have dual personalities!

 

Some of my buddies get frustrated with me because I am not a good wing man or bird dog. I don't care really. I don't go out to meet woman. I go out to hang out with my friends. I have learned if I try to force myself to be someone I am not, I'll end up with the wrong person.

 

In the end I am looking for a conservative woman who loves banter, has wit, a sense of humor, can be social and hang out with my friends and talk, yet is not over the top.

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I am the conservative, strong masculine type..I am intelligent and enjoy an engaging intellectual conversation, but prefer fun witty banter over that. I never put on an act, it's really which one of me comes out when..I am a Gemini, so I have dual personalities!

 

Some of my buddies get frustrated with me because I am not a good wing man or bird dog. I don't care really. I don't go out to meet woman. I go out to hang out with my friends. I have learned if I try to force myself to be someone I am not, I'll end up with the wrong person.

 

In the end I am looking for a conservative woman who loves banter, has wit, a sense of humor, can be social and hang out with my friends and talk, yet is not over the top.

 

Oh man, why do I never meet guys like this? :laugh:

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Oh man, why do I never meet guys like this? :laugh:

 

Well, you are from Pluto, and I am from Mars..so should the stars align....

 

:love:

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I get anything from shy to outgoing, young to old. Personally, not at all a fan of shy girls. I'll sacrifice on looks if it means being with someone more outgoing.

 

Man, I am reading my story MrCastel! Good to hear it from another man.

 

I am currently intertested in a shy girl, trying to stay away from the crazy wild hot model types, who seem to be attracted to my social side and my looks. Shes been a bit frustrating for me as like you I have to initiate everything. She talks a big talk about being physical, then pulls away.

 

 

I work with models regularly. They're actually quite insecure despite their looks. But I agree about the shy ones. I prefer to avoid them.

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I work with models regularly. They're actually quite insecure despite their looks. But I agree about the shy ones. I prefer to avoid them.

 

What amazed me about my last gf is she recently told me "She has struggled with her looks her entire life". I interpreted that as "lots of male attention". She was trying to reconcile and I shared with her that I got tied of all of her male FB friends posting comments on how hot she was, how amazing she looked, how sexy she was. Heck, they even did it when I posted a photo of us on my FB page. She tired to tell me it's just them being funny, oh and she then tossed out that she knows she is a sexy momma! Really? Good luck was pretty much my response. Let the next guy deal with your drama.

 

Well, she got breast implants in the past 5 years (before I met her), hair extensions, dyes her hair blonder and has no issues wearing a top/dress that shows cleavage and he legs. Really? For a night out, no issues, but to work or to go shopping? And she has "struggled" with her looks? Then why emphasize and enhance?

 

I am very attracted to natural, classy, sophisticated looks..you know, the sexy librarian type! And for me, what I can't see turns me on sometimes more than what I can see.

 

The hotties will turn my head though I have no interest in talking to them.

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I do notice that many liberal artsy women tend to be attracted to macho masculinity despite the fact that they criticize it all the time. A woman I work with who is a democrat voting card carrying liberal questioned a dates masculinity because he supports gay marriage. I learned my lesson to stay away from artsy women. No offense to anybody here.

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What amazed me about my last gf is she recently told me "She has struggled with her looks her entire life". I interpreted that as "lots of male attention". She was trying to reconcile and I shared with her that I got tied of all of her male FB friends posting comments on how hot she was, how amazing she looked, how sexy she was. Heck, they even did it when I posted a photo of us on my FB page. She tired to tell me it's just them being funny, oh and she then tossed out that she knows she is a sexy momma! Really? Good luck was pretty much my response. Let the next guy deal with your drama.

 

Well, she got breast implants in the past 5 years (before I met her), hair extensions, dyes her hair blonder and has no issues wearing a top/dress that shows cleavage and he legs. Really? For a night out, no issues, but to work or to go shopping? And she has "struggled" with her looks? Then why emphasize and enhance?

 

I am very attracted to natural, classy, sophisticated looks..you know, the sexy librarian type! And for me, what I can't see turns me on sometimes more than what I can see.

 

The hotties will turn my head though I have no interest in talking to them.

 

 

I think when you're around hot women regularly, it loses it's appeal. I'm at the point where it actually bores me.

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Cursory attraction, variable. Asked out, variable although they were primarily intelligent white collar men.

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So when I go with my quirky persona which is more of who I am, hippies living in a commune or a hard core conspiracy theorists, or men that are into poly-amoury or drug addicts think that they have found their match.

 

I laughed quite hard when I got to this part.

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Being myself has never gotten me anywhere with decent women. Really when I'm 'myself' and wearing what I want to wear, acting how I want to act the only women who go for me are the ones who have no options. A buddy of mine told me that as a man I looked too 'easy' to get or something. Too happy.

 

So I put up a sort of 'quiet cool' demeanor. Calm, laid back, polite, I'll act somewhat dismissive towards women. It's not how I want to act but it works a lot better.

 

The 'regular me' wearing t shirt, jeans, and old shoes who is happy and easy-going can't get driving directions from women whereas the calm, collected, well-dressed me I've had them hit on me, give me hugs etc in public and most of the time I didn't recognize them.

 

As far as dating in different areas...there are places where you can get away with more and there are places where dating will be impossible for you.

 

So it's not about just 'be yourself' so much as 'be yourself' when and where it counts. If that makes sense.

 

The hotties will turn my head though I have no interest in talking to them.

 

Natural beauty and good personality YES, lots of makeup and stuck-up/crazy drama, NO.

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I think when you're around hot women regularly, it loses it's appeal. I'm at the point where it actually bores me.

 

That's funny. I find myself desensitized to beautiful women, since I have a lot of female friends. Still can't get one of them attracted to me. Oh well. :laugh:

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I attract weird guys no matter what I do.

 

Although back when I was happier, I attracted weird-in-a-good-way guys who made me laugh. I think it's my happiness or lack thereof that shines through just as much as my personality and makes a big difference.

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Has like attracted like in your case? Or the opposite?

 

Although I'm not a stoner myself, I've quite often been mistaken for one because my sense of humour is just sufficiently suspicious sounding for people to find it hard to believe it isn't chemically induced. I have sat and listened to a few guitar strumming sessions in my time - performed with varying degrees of dreamy eyed competence. That would probably be the type I've attracted mainly. Various shades of political, but generally there's a bit of a doe eyed romantic in there somewhere.

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