cuddlebug20 Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 hmmmm life kinda sux when it wants to! I've met this great and wonderful guy...he's gave me his numbers, and I even gave him my address...I know I'm crazy but I can just tell that he's a gentlemen. I've talked to enough men online and dated enough men to know the difference. I've not called him yet, I'll get to that problem in a few.....he will be sending me a letter and a picture on tuesday. Him and I both are tired of the secrecy, hope I spelled that right! His family knows about me, mine is clueless about him. I just came home after living away with an ex bf for year, in May I started seeing another guy, whom also ended up hurting me. That made five relationships from the internet for me, I ended up getting hurt in all of them. My parents have dared me to get involved with someone else from the internet. Which brings me to my problem.....I want to see him so bad and he does me too....I'm tired of waiting to see him, he lives close by so it's not a distance problem or anything like that. It's just that I'm scared to death to tell my parents about him but yet I want him so bad How can I disrespect my parents after they have helped me through so much, but then again, there's no way I can turn him away he's way too special. I'm 20years old and I feel like a little kid, ughhhh! what to do, what to do! Anyone have any advice?I don't know why I let such small stuff as this bother me so bad. It's just that I don't want to disappoint my parents after they have helped me so much. Which I guess I should explain my situation.....to sum it all up, I lived with my ex bf from May 2003 until February, he was abusive toward me. He got me into some trouble, I was charged with receiving stolen property, court has been settled as of the beginning of this month. I am on 2 years of unsupervised probation. My parents were out $5,000 for my lawyer, they got their $10,000 bond money back. Which makes it so much harder for me to go against their wishes. I'm a very shy person and I find it extremely hard to meet people in real life. All of my ex bf's are from the internet. As I said in my initial post, my parents dared me to talk to another guy online. I hadn't intended to, but, I ran across him and he is everything I have ever wanted. A good, nice, sweet, caring, well-mannered, christian guy. I would be crazy to pass up an opportunity to have something with him. I know that if my parents would just get to know him they would like him a lot. My problem is I don't know how to break the news to them, I know that when I do it will be World War 3 in my house. I wish they would just understand that the internet is no different then meeting people out in public in real life. He is sending me a letter today, I'll get it tomorrow. I'm really nervous because I know that I won't be here to get it, my dad will be home and will most likely find it I kinda hope he does that way he'll find out on his own about Matt, and I won't have to break the news, but I know that when I get home, I'll get a real good talking to. At times I just wish I could crawl into a hole and hide. I feel so pathetic, I'm 20 years old and scared to death to tell my parents about him. I wish they were not so strict. I was wondering if anyone knows where I can find statistics about online relationships? How many of today's couples met online? How many marriages have resulted from online relationships and etc. I'd really appreciate it! God Bless!
moimeme Posted October 19, 2004 Posted October 19, 2004 I ran across him and he is everything I have ever wanted. A good, nice, sweet, caring, well-mannered, christian guy You don't know this. This is why you get hurt by people you meet on the Internet - they tell you things you believe when you shouldn't. I suspect this is why your parents don't want you to meet people on the Internet anymore - you are too willing to believe that a perfect stranger is 'the one' based only on what he's told you. You can't make that determination until you've met someone and spent time with him. A LOT of time. I'm not saying this isn't a nice guy. He could actually be telling the truth. But you have to get a lot more careful about believing what someone tells you until you are shown proof in person. And you sure have to stop yourself from thinking somebody you don't even know is 'the one'. but I can just tell that he's a gentlemen No you can't. You're not psychic - nobody is. Women have married men only to find themselves being abused after they got married. You're no smarter than anybody else - everybody can be fooled by a real good liar. So you should quit fooling yourself that you can 'tell' if a man is good or not at a great distance. You may come to great harm because of thinking somehow you can figure people out without even knowing them.
Stone Posted October 19, 2004 Posted October 19, 2004 If you are looking for a nice sweet christian guy, try attending some churches don't look for men online... look at what it's got you in the past. Your 20 an adult no doubt, but it seems like your parents are going to great lenghts to help you and protect you. It's time for you to respect their wishes and don't meet men online you are living in their home yes? and they won't contimue to help you just to get a slap in the face when you don't listen. I wish you the best in this situation but you need to concentrate on getting your life togeather at the moment and not worry so much about finding the one... there is more than ONE out there the only ONE you need to worry about now is you and your faimly.
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