Do people give you a hard time if you are still single?

[buzzie2]

I have just turned 35 and am a never married single woman. This it not by choice by the way. I would love to be in a relationship but have just not met the right guy. Anyways, I have people that are pressuring me to find a boyfriend and some are even giving me a hard time about it that I have still not found somebody yet. I know they are just trying to help but really it is not any of their business. I am just wondering if any one else is having the same problem? And if you are how do you cope with the pressure from people and all the questions?

[Eggplant]

How to deal with it depends on the nature of the relationship.

 

Coworkers are out of line, in my opinion, prying into anybody's personal life. That said, the best method is to politely evade them and change the topic, since it's your career and all.

 

Friends and family, on the other hand, may express their feelings, but they too have to be respectful of your boundaries. And you can be more firm about telling them what you don't like.

[Southern Cal Dude]

A few times lately. I didn't get it when I was 20-21, but now that I'm coming up on 25, I'm starting to have people want to set me up. Not at all a fan of it quite frankly and I'm at the point where I just automatically tell people I'm seeing someone.

[ThaWholigan]

I used to get the occasional "you need to get laid man" (even from my mum of all people ) but that died down. Most people don't talk about it anymore.

[Necris]

Occasionally my friends may say the whole "you need to get laid dude" thing.

 

My parents in particular my dad is always asking if I'll ever meet someone and thinks it's weird that I'm in my twenties never had sex or a relationship of any kind and mostly a loner. He also seems to question me alot asking if I'm actually gay.

[Tinie]

Oh yeah I have that. Only I'm 20 so it doesn't make sense, but maybe it does since my parents were born and raised in Ukraine and mostly everyone there gets married at 19 or 20.

 

Ignore those people. What do they know? It's better to be single than in an unhappy relationship with a man who is all wrong for you, a man you don't love.

 

A fellow coworker of mine gets teased because he's almost 30 and isn't even seeking or planning on getting himself a girl. He's fine single because he's accepted that his workaholic lifestyle won't allow him to have a girl.

[The Introvert]

Ya, people used laugh at me for being single and I was frustrated and eventually I became deaf to their teasing and I am working on it bit by bit I am now 20 my peers have had many relationships but I don' care, I am DIFFERENT!

[ltjg45]

My mother tend to make fun of me that I'm a virgin but that is just her nature so I brush it off.

 

I do have one person every few years asking why I never had a girlfriend but, outside of giving them a vague answer, they tend to leave it at that.

[Phoe]

I get it all the time.

 

"How come you're always single?" "Why aren't you married yet?" "Why don't you have any children yet?" "How come you never date anyone?"

 

 

I just smile, shrug, and change the subject. Although I would quite LIKE to give those people a kick to the throat

[shexy]

Yes, all the time and it annoys the crap out of me.

[straightshooter82]

Fairly often, but my approach is to politely ask the person to introduce me to a single, attractive, sane woman, and that usually quiets them down.

[krz12]

Mom does. Apparently mothers really don't understand it when their sons are unable to attract women.