Pain and Regret Turn to Pity

[marqueemoon4]

I'm so embarrassed I sweated my ex wife for the last few years, crying on here I'm so sad I'll never have a real family etc etc.. missing this person.. being angry and jealous of this new guy she married. Truth is these two idiots are so meant for each other. She is a cheating, dishonest joke of a human being who only cares for herself and what she can take from others. He is a twice divorced tool who leaves no stone unturned when it comes to being the biggest dbag humanly possible.

 

Married in Vegas? Sure why not.

 

Conceiving children while both still legally married? Oh yea.

 

She wears a shirt that says "In Love" surrounded by a heart? In public no less?

 

Have matching personalized plates that say "Sin City" (him) and "Vegas Blvd" (her)? All day and night.

 

How about one of those heart charms with a keyhole in it? Yup she rocks that with pride.

 

What's next.. an airbrushed shirt that has their names with a big heart? Are these people adults or in the 7th grade?

 

At this point I'm sincerely embarrassed to have ANY ties to this fem-douche, and pray I can keep my son from ending up anything like either of them.

Edited July 1, 2013 by marqueemoon4

[BrokenHeartedSavior]

Whoa whoa! Easy on yourself my good Man!

 

I too have missed (still do) my lying, cheating ex. We're just human you know.

 

As far as THEY go? They're just going to suck the life outta someone else now! They aren't OUR problem anymore, and they WILL NOT change. They'll just find another "victim"

 

Let her wear, or display anything she likes, it ain't for real my friend!

 

Do NOT be embarrast for having TRUE human emotions! You are a REAL man!

[marqueemoon4]

Let her wear, or display anything she likes, it ain't for real my friend!

 

 

Thanks for your response. It may be real, it may not be. I only care how it affects my son, my time with him, and his well being.

[marqueemoon4]

Ex wife text today to tell me she'll be on vacation with this clown husband of hers all this week. Loves to rub it in my face. Also said that my son will be staying with her parents (mother/stepfather). I don't see my son until Thursday.. She would rather have him stay with her parents than his father. Oh and pretty sure this is another trip to Vega$.. her 3rd in like 2yrs. What a ****in joke. I can't help but loathe this person.

[marqueemoon4]

I'm embarrassed to admit this, but I'm pretty sure I got a text from my ex like 5hrs ago, when I said something about her trip she's going on tomorrow. I said something like "gee let me guess, Vegas again? One day you'll realize how ridiculous what you're doing is. You're so fake"

 

And yea I'm sure she came back with something designed to hurt my feelings so I've avoided looking at my phone the last few hours... because I KNOW it will upset me. How sad is that?

Edited July 8, 2013 by marqueemoon4

[tryingtoevolve]

Currently separated from my H, walk away man leaving an adoring wife and an adorable 2 year old boy. So, I have to say...thank you for that. I needed to laugh and know that there are smart, bitter, sarcastic people out there like me (here is the hopeful part) who've kept their head above water long enough to pity the hell out of their ex and make it their mission not to let their child be another link in the crazy chain.

[marqueemoon4]

Currently separated from my H, walk away man leaving an adoring wife and an adorable 2 year old boy. So, I have to say...thank you for that. I needed to laugh and know that there are smart, bitter, sarcastic people out there like me (here is the hopeful part) who've kept their head above water long enough to pity the hell out of their ex and make it their mission not to let their child be another link in the crazy chain.

 

I don't want to be bitter, but I struggle not to be. And yes, it is my mission in life to teach my son to be the complete opposite of these two morons. As in:

 

-be honest

-take responsibility for your actions

-that being a man of your word is hugely important

-to get a good education

-to not quit everything if it becomes the least bit difficult

 

 

These people have no integrity, character, standards or shame. Basically they're everything despicable about the human race in one ridiculous, dysfunctional couple.

 

 

Ps- TTE.. how could any man walk away from his son? It's bad enough he's breaking his vows with you, but his child?? I'm really sorry you both have to go through this.

Edited July 8, 2013 by marqueemoon4

[worldgonewrong]

I'm embarrassed to admit this, but I'm pretty sure I got a text from my ex like 5hrs ago, when I said something about her trip she's going on tomorrow. I said something like "gee let me guess, Vegas again? One day you'll realize how ridiculous what you're doing is. You're so fake"

 

You shouldn't have sent that text. It's a clear message to her that she still exerts some control over you, and she gets off on that. STOP, please.

[Woah93]

Yeah dwelling in hatred and despising his mother will teach him a great deal in life. way to go

[Ashlaria]

You know the opposite of love isn't hate, it's apathy. When you get a message from her and truly don't care what it says, that's when you are over her.

 

In the meantime, I know this is hard, but you must be really careful not to pass on your negative opinions of her to your son. I split with my sons Dad 8 years ago when his drinking became an issue. My son was 6. We left and he saw his Dad each weekend, but would come back saying things like 'Daddy says you're lazy, Daddy says you don't play with me enough' it was hard to hear (and untrue) but I couldn't argue with a six year old about the rights and wrongs.

 

Try to separate your son from his Mum in your mind and when you spend time with him, make it just about you two.

 

As for them, well they shouldn't matter to you any more. Onwards and upwards fella. Remember, the best revenge is a life well lived!!

[marqueemoon4]

Yeah dwelling in hatred and despising his mother will teach him a great deal in life. way to go

 

I hope your your other 4 posts were equally insightful and helpful

 

I'm not dwelling in hatred, I'm stuck dealing with a pathetic excuse for a human being who does nothing but cause myself and my son problems. But thanks for your concern.

[marqueemoon4]

You shouldn't have sent that text. It's a clear message to her that she still exerts some control over you, and she gets off on that. STOP, please.

 

I don't see how pointing out that she's a complete idiot (which she clearly is) shows any form of power or control.

[worldgonewrong]

I don't see how pointing out that she's a complete idiot (which she clearly is) shows any form of power or control.

 

With all love, my man, let me lay it out for you:

 

Your text: "gee let me guess, Vegas again? One day you'll realize how ridiculous what you're doing is. You're so fake"

 

1. You have expressed an opinion about where she's going. It shows, on some level, that you care where she's going.

2. You have expressed that she's "ridiculous" and "fake" which sends a clear message to her, on some level, that you care about what type of person she's become.

3. If you didn't pass any pronouncement on Vegas or whether she's ridiculous/fake, then it would indicate to her that she does not occupy that sort of space in your head.

What she takes away from this is that you still care, that her actions/choices elicit a reaction from you, and that (to her) you're so sensitive to what she does.

 

Your primary concern is whether or not she feeds and loves your son.

Everything else (Vegas, the white-trash-y fake b.s.) is none of your concern, and should not be expressed even if you find it revolting, unless it somehow all has a negative impact on your son directly.

[marqueemoon4]

Nothing but love back my bro.. you make valid points.

[TaraMaiden]

Whatever emotions you hold for her, in your heart, you cling to her just as much as if you loved her.

 

 

You need to distance yourself from any type of attachment to her (which you still, demonstrably have) and attain indifference.

 

"Yeah.... So?"

 

"Meh... nothing to do with me...."

 

"You okay, son? Yeah? That's fine then."

 

Indifference.

You couldn't care less.

You give a flying fig.

 

 

THAT'S what you're aiming for.

[marqueemoon4]

I don't give a flying fig what she does. I am however concerned about her and this new husband of hers influence on my son. And that's valid. I'm also annoyed by her continuing to use my son against me.

Edited July 17, 2013 by marqueemoon4