Samms22 Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 I took one of my beautiful friends (almost a solid 10) to a concert last night. We had box suites, courtesy of my other friend who invited me. He allowed me to bring a date. He brought one of his own, a girl that he had just met a few days prior. This beautiful girl, who I'll just call K, is a good friend of mine that I've known for a couple of years. I never tried to pursue her because I thought she was too good for me, has guys all of the time commenting on her FB, etc. Figured she had enough of it. When I invited her, I was shocked to actually hear her accept my invitation. I would find out later and via her conversation with me that she always liked me. go figure. The "date" went very well at the beginning. We were laughing and getting a long great, all four of us, but then as my male friend's date started to get drunk, she started to hit on me and move away from my friend. I tried to ignore this and encouraged her to go talk to my buddy, but she kept ignoring him. This drove him to want to leave and get a cab, etc. and go home. I tried to convince him to stay, and calm him down, but it culminated in him actually shouting at the poor girl and calling her the C word, etc. My date K had to get involved (she knows my friend from way back) and yelled at him. It basically killed the mood, as before we were dancing, kissing, and enjoying the concert and having a blast. We left early, all four of us, and when I dropped the two off (my friend and his date) after they reconciled, K warmed up again and we had a good closing of our date. I wanted her to come in and have a meal with me at my house, but she said "not on the first date" playfully. I actually liked this about her. She went home after we made out a bit and that was that. I texted her good night and we both agreed to meet this week for another date. Now comes my question... the male friend basically killed the mood for the whole group, and before during the night I asked K if she wanted to come over after the concert and she, I believe, said yes, although we both were a bit drunk. LSers, and females, how much would you dislike a guy/and or it kill your feelings for a guy, who although did nothing wrong on the first date, had a friend that acted like that to a girl? How much would that "mood killing", drama affect your going out with the guy again? I told K I wanted to take her on a real date, me and her, with dinner and real talk, and she jumped at the idea, but I'm not sure if she was being polite or not. She didn't set solid plans but agreed "Wednesday or Thursday". I texted her today to wish her good afternoon and to send her some pictures as well as to ask her if she nailed down the date so far, and that was at about 130PM, and is now 4:30. I know I need to relax, but I'd like to get your guys and girls opinion on what I can expect based on your experience. Thanks!
CptSaveAho Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 you invited her to dinner at your place (aka sex) and she said not on the first date... it had nothing to do with your friend quit being a pansey... you texted her to wish her a good afternoon? are you trying to friendzone yourself? Pick a day, call her up and say hey lets do dinner "Wed/Thurs night" She will say yes or (some lame excuse) Its not rocket science 1
jen_r Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 I mean, i don't see why you think she wouldn't be interested in you when it was your friend who was causing the drama? I wouldn't dismiss a guy I liked just because his friend was being a little douchey when he was drunk.
Author Samms22 Posted June 30, 2013 Author Posted June 30, 2013 you invited her to dinner at your place (aka sex) and she said not on the first date... it had nothing to do with your friend quit being a pansey... you texted her to wish her a good afternoon? are you trying to friendzone yourself? Pick a day, call her up and say hey lets do dinner "Wed/Thurs night" She will say yes or (some lame excuse) Its not rocket science Pretty sure I'm not friend zoned if we made out most of the night. Could be wrong though. Im a nice guy who doesn't fall in line with the "must be an ******* to get girls" thing, and I don't have a problem getting dates etc. As far as the friend thing goes, I'm not sure how much it affected my chances that night . That's why I asked. I'm trying to be aloof and not too pushy because I don't want her to buzz off. That's why I sent her a text today and that's it.
CptSaveAho Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 I can tell you are a nice guy, you are acting "aloof" playing games, etc (very passive... lacking confidence) What you refer to *******s or being an *******, I refer to as confident men who aren't outcome dependent on one girl that was out on a single date Hot girls see right through this aloof texting crap, why do you think they date "ass holes" They are direct and to the point and dont post on LS asking womens' views on how the date went It honestly doesnt matter what happened on that first date with your friend. If you are worth a crap, she will go with you on another date, if not, she wont
shexy Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 Your friend sounds like kind of a creep, and so was the girl he was with....not that it has to do with anything. If you like this girl, ask her out again - dont' mamby pamby around with sending a text to say hi, just ask her out. If she likes you she'll say yes, if not, she'll say no. Dont' invite her to your house though, because she'll think you just want sex. And don't even say it's to make her a meal, we all know how that translates.
crude Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 I must be reading this all wrong. Your male friend's date got drunk, she hit on you, she ignored the guy she was with, so he wanted to go home. She really was the C word, so why is everyone making him out to be the bad guy?
RedRobin Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 Your friend sounds like kind of a creep, and so was the girl he was with....not that it has to do with anything. If you like this girl, ask her out again - dont' mamby pamby around with sending a text to say hi, just ask her out. If she likes you she'll say yes, if not, she'll say no. Dont' invite her to your house though, because she'll think you just want sex. And don't even say it's to make her a meal, we all know how that translates. Yep.........
Author Samms22 Posted July 1, 2013 Author Posted July 1, 2013 Your friend sounds like kind of a creep, and so was the girl he was with....not that it has to do with anything. If you like this girl, ask her out again - dont' mamby pamby around with sending a text to say hi, just ask her out. If she likes you she'll say yes, if not, she'll say no. Dont' invite her to your house though, because she'll think you just want sex. And don't even say it's to make her a meal, we all know how that translates. I took the advice of most people in this thread. I called her (didn't answer) and left a voicemail asking her out pointedly for this Wednesday. She had already agreed to it but now it's just confirming it. She's still about 7 hours MIA so I don't know what's going on. Kinda depressing . My buddy is a little bit of a creep, sometimes. He was expecting more than the girl wanted and that's his problem. It just cascaded down and ruined the night, it was going so awesomely before that. I feel like if they had gotten together without my date having to hell at my friend at the top of her lungs to stop a using his date, things might have gone differently. I don't want her to associate that **** with me, is all.
Author Samms22 Posted July 1, 2013 Author Posted July 1, 2013 Yep......... FYI, I'm glad she didn't want to come in. I just don't know if its from the way the night went to hell or from a desire to not see me or from tiredness. Just trying to evaluate how to act and behave in future as well as now. She had expressed interest in eating with me after the concert when things were going fine. Keep in mind that this girl is very flirtatious and extremely tease friendly, to everyone. Despite me making out with her etc and her numerous hints and teases about dating further, that could just be her normal behavior with a guy she goes out with. She also could have been using me for the suite tickets to a very high profile concert. I don't know. I'm not ugly, by far, and she was laughing almost the whole time, but her lack of communication really sucks. If she really liked me, wouldn't she be texting back promptly? Heh
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