Why am i having a hard time letting this go? It wasnt even that long

[gomea]

I've only been talking to this guy for about a month, things did go pretty fast. It involved him flying out to see me from another state and things were amazing. He was very affectionate, introduced me to his friends, planning to fly out again to see me and me to see him. He initiated majority of the contact before that and meeting him in person for the first time, we were both so comfortable and as if we've been dating for a long time already. He goes back to his state and talked to me a couple more times after that and it pretty much went downhill from there. When i try to talk to him, he'll respond then stop. At this point, i already know it's over. I know i shouldnt say that because its not like anything REALLY started with us. Anyway, ive just been so sad about the whole thing and im having a hard time letting this go. Its weird because its only been a month. I just feel so down. Worse part if i keep thinking of the times we had and beating myself up for it that it's my fault. That maybe i scared him away? Maybe i didnt show enough interest? I dont know.

 

I just didnt think i would be THIS down knowing someone for only a month. I mean I dated a guy for three months before that and that didnt work out (some ex of his came back). I remember crying for a day and was bummed out for a few days but I was over it soon after. I dont jump from one guy to the next so usually when I date, there's a few months gap before i go and date someone again and so I know i am ready. But man, how do i stop beating myself for this one not working out?

[flitzanu]

find a new hobby and occupy your time

[sprucegoose]

Don't let some idiot that's undeserving of your attention make you think less of yourself. Your worth is not dependent on his feelings for you. I believe you can do better!

[Nicoleiia]

These short relationships are the worst. They leave you all messed up when they end, usually abruptly. Its easy to fall in love early on. Just go NC and forget about him. That's all you can do.

[forgetmenot75]

Gladly it was only a month!!

you can't let him go, because you don't want to! Delete him from your life, your chances a pretty high you'll be perfectly fine, dating someone else, and being happy.

 

Don't look at his pics, don't stalk him, don't text him, don't call him: DELETE HIM!

 

You'll be fine