youngBrew Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 Ok Firstly I am a new user and this is my first Post :cool: anyway, I have the same' ole problems with girls its not looks are style just an experience and confidence thing. So to help change that I got a job as a bouncer in a very popular bar/club. Smooth move right, I know. But my thing is I don't know what my game is or if I even have any for that matter, such is the reason I want to improve on that aspect about myself. So question 1 is : What is game? I am not a naturally manipulative person, is that a bad thing?( in terms of meeting and getting girls) Do i need to develop my manipulation skills are is there something I am failing to mention that I can improve on and use to start dating women? Thanks in advance for any answer And those who look and don't answer shame on you!
todreaminblue Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 Ok Firstly I am a new user and this is my first Post :cool: And those who look and don't answer shame on you! lol was going to read and run......smilin the only time you should have good game is when you are playing scrabble.......just be yourself.......and talk to a woman that you find attractive....be confident,assertive but not aggressively dominant....listen when she speaks....show interest and if that is game....that is good....gaining experience just means that you have to speak up......and get used to talkign to women...as a bouncer....they will probably come up to you......a lot of women do go up to bouncers to ask about the club they are thinking of drinking at or dancing at.......be open and personable...you wont struggle to get dates if you are a door man...........deb.
ThaWholigan Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 Depends on how you define manipulation - but I get the feeling that "direct" game will suit you more. Manipulation is merely interpreted as a derisive form of social engineering - to an extent the game of seduction involves social engineering mainly. Nonetheless - your conversational skills probably need a little tune-up, rather than going full scale social engineer. I would start by being a little bolder with women, learn to read body language and see who responds to you more favourably. 1
TheGuard13 Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 "Game" tends to be a fancy word for "social skills". Especially in regard to those of the opposite sex. It's not so much manipulation as bringing out what's already there.
Author youngBrew Posted July 1, 2013 Author Posted July 1, 2013 "Social Engineering!!!! what is this a college course (joking). But it makes good sense, ill try to be more direct.
Author youngBrew Posted July 1, 2013 Author Posted July 1, 2013 Yay my first Reply-er! your so cool, and ill try the be myself thing it lines up with being more direct I feel.
hppr Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 (edited) Read up on "Pick Up Artist" stuff. If you are a bouncer at a club you'll probably need it to keep your sanity considering most of the clubber girls out there are straight up crazy. True game is just about being friendly, good at conversation, knowing how to work a room...aka social skills. EDIT 2nd half of 'Game' is how you present yourself. Are you well dressed, well-groomed, being a bouncer I guess you are big, is it a good big or do you look like Frankenstein, etc. If you look good then women will be a lot nicer to you and the conversation will flow a lot easier. Edited July 1, 2013 by hppr
Author youngBrew Posted July 1, 2013 Author Posted July 1, 2013 Read up on "Pick Up Artist" stuff. If you are a bouncer at a club you'll probably need it to keep your sanity considering most of the clubber girls out there are straight up crazy. True game is just about being friendly, good at conversation, knowing how to work a room...aka social skills. EDIT 2nd half of 'Game' is how you present yourself. Are you well dressed, well-groomed, being a bouncer I guess you are big, is it a good big or do you look like Frankenstein, etc. If you look good then women will be a lot nicer to you and the conversation will flow a lot easier. I have read one or two Pua books a couple years ago. Honestly that stuff makes me feel weird. I feel like if I am using a script someone else wrote then they should be the one to get the girl. It just feels like I am not doing any work. And about the crazy thing most of the people at the club/bar are just drunk and having stupid drunk fun. I don't see it as crazy just bad decision they may soon regret once they are sober.
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