bamaguy20 Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 Ive signed up for a coouple of them, because when i was looking through i noticed some REALLY hot girls on there who seem to have just broken up with an ex a lot like i have......anyone have any experience with any of these, know if they work??? im a little pessimistic, but I could certainly see somethign working, anyone have any tips on meeting people through one of those internet dating sites?
arcadia Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 a lot of those unbelieveably hot chicks on dating sites are really porn sites looking to swarm you with ads as soon as you message them. or at least that is what my boyfriend told me.
Majik45 Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 I had absolutely no luck with a lot of dating websites (match.com, cupid.com, yahoo personals, etc.). For the most part, I would send out tons and tons of messages and get basically no responses what-so-ever. I got absolutely no where with those sites because I figure a lot of the ads posted are fake ads or people that aren't really looking for relationships. It sucks, and was a waste of my money. I did meet someone through eharmony though. It took me quite a while to find the right girl, and we've been dating for a couple of months now, and it has been the most fulfilling relationship I think I've ever been in so far. I highly recommend it, as I got a lot of no responses there, but had probably around a 50% answer rate to matches there.
July Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 Hi there.... I am in a relationship and have never used any kind of dating site before, but a friend of mine has availed of internet dating sites. She found it a good way to meet people. Now, she uses lavalife in which you can chat and meet people in your own city. Granted, she has met a few frogs but also met alot of good people. The nguy she is with now is amazing and she met him on Lavalife. That seems like a trustworthy site.
Dakini Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 eharmony is fantastic. I think it works because it does cost a lot of money, and if someone is going to shell out that kind of dough, they better be serious about finding a relationship - note I said relationship, not f**k buddy. In addition, they match you to specific people (you don't get to make the match) based on specific criteria - you don't get to look through a bunch of pics. and see which one makes your pole go up... it really matches you based on compatibility. I personally matched with some amazing people! Good luck.
Rez Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 I didnt have much luck at all with Match.com, Date.com or Eharmony.com. The ratio of men to women on Match.com has to be at least 20 to 1 so the women get flooded with emails and the men dont get many at all and its hard to get women to read yours since they get 20-50 a day. Plus they dont tell you who and who is not a paying member. The only way people can reply to your emails is if theyre a paying member so you dont know if theyre just not interested, or not paying. Its also hard to include a personal email address in your emails because Match has scripts that automatically remove any external email addresses. Like majik45, I sent out over 100 emails and got just a few back. I had similar luck with date.com. Also most of the people I met through Match or Date ended up being people who were shopping around. Looking for that perfect guy who doesnt exist. So, wed date a few times and theyd move on, or theyd continue to date me while still looking for other guys. Ive gone back to match a few times to just look around in the last few years and those same people are still there looking. For me, I was there to find a long term relationship, and I assumed that other people were there for that too. From my experience, that isnt the case with a lot of them. Theyre just looking to date a lot. Eharmony worked no better for me either. I was completely honest with the questionaire (I even took it twice) and they still kept pairing me up with people I wasnt even remotely compatible with. This next comment isnt meant to be mean or judgemental here, but I wasnt physically attracted to any of them either. I know thats not the most important thing, but there has to be at least some physical chemistry there. Out of the 60 or so they paired me up with, I found two attractive. To make sure I wasnt being overly judgemental, I ran the profiles past two friends (one male, one female) and they said the same thing. Now, after saying all that, I did meet the current woman Im dating through Match. I hadnt been paying for months at this point and had pretty much forgotten my profile was still out there. After several bad dates, she was to the point that she was going to give up too, but decided to send out a few last emails. She emailed me and I couldnt respond since I wasnt paying. I wasnt going to pay $30 to send her one email so I was just going to blow it off. I then noticed they had a 3 day trial offer, so I signed up, sent a few emails back and forth and then canceled my account before I had to pay. Im still dating that woman almost 3 months later so its working out ok for now. So the only luck I had with Match was at a point I wasnt paying or even using the account. Go figure. Sorry for ranting and sounding negative about this, but for the most part, I found the internet stuff to be a waste of my money and time.... and before you go off and say I must be some big ogre , I am an attractive guy so it wasnt my profile they were scared off by.
CurlyIam Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 My bf calls me old fashioned and out of the dating market... Never used it, don't intend to. I'm uncomfortable to the very idea of it. I think I have enough friends and skills to meet people in everyday life... The truth is that as far as people are concerned...you just never know. So if you feel lucky (and have enough self esteem) gamble away. I still think getting a new hobby or new friends will do the trick.
Nosmas Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 Can't sleep, huh, Curly? I like the hobby idea: But I'll be discrete in describing what hobby I'd choose.
ILSO Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 Dating sites... I don't think its the site that makes the match..Use common sense and the protection of anonymity to get to know someone. If he/she wants to meet 10 mins after meeting online, take the hint and ignore them. Most dating sites have comon sense guidlines, like meet in a public place first etc. Some that I have talked to about them, seem to stigmatize them. It's really no different than a bar, getting set up by a friend, etc.
Naive Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 I'm too scary to actually try it out, but I don't think it's bad.
Naive Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 P.S. Just be careful with the people you meet on there. Never believe everything they type.
CurlyIam Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 Originally posted by Nosmas Can't sleep, huh, Curly? I like the hobby idea: But I'll be discrete in describing what hobby I'd choose. You "got" me!!! Usually most thing that end in Sutra will do !!!
Majik45 Posted October 19, 2004 Posted October 19, 2004 Just to let you know, it took me nearly 8 months on eharmony to find the girl I'm dating now. It was very frustrating, but now that I've found her, she's everything I could ever want and more.
Impressive1 Posted October 19, 2004 Posted October 19, 2004 I am on several dating sites. I haven't met any weird stalkers, yet... lol and not love but I have met some very interesting sweet guys. My advice, webcam with a person before meeting,so you will know it is actually that person. Don't get upset if the people you write do not answer, some aren't paying members and can't but may would like to, if you email them there are ways to let them know what your screen name and/or email address is. You just have to be creative. If you use webdate.com everything is free and you can even go into the live cam rooms. From a Bama girl to a Bama guy---- I wish you all the luck in the world...
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