sam_staley Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 Hey, let me share my problem here. I ll be glad for any help or personal experience that you ll share with me. Should be interesting to read as well. It all started randomly my friend was browsing some random dating site when i saw the picture of a girl with red curly hair. I instantly fell in love with how she looked, really if you had the one dream person you d want to meet this was her. At it got better - we shared the same interest (at least according to the site) music, literature, live styles.... ( all of them very specific). I d never thought i d find a girl like this. Never. The thing was i was dating this other girl. Not dating probably we were just seeing each other few times a week. Anyway i knew i was doin a bad thing (never cheated in any way on anyone) but i msged her from my friends acc. Long story short. We met, kissed, everything was perfect. For two months. I was scared, never was in a serious relationship (21yrs old), this was my first time. Im very introvert, locked into myself, alone, not understood (yeah everyone says that bout himself, but believe me, just try it). I was acting stupid but i didnt realise it (sometimes showing her pictures of other gilrs i dated, told her i never believe anyone not even her, i dont believe in love etc.). I loved her very much would give my life for her, anything. I just was afraid to say it. One day i did say it. Best moment in my life. Anyways. 3 months later i found out all the bad things. I have to put em all in so you can understand. She is a passionate woman, slept with 9 guys before me - mostly only for sex. Never really loved anyone ( only partly one guy, she cheated on him). Cheated on a guy that loved her just for sex with some other guy. Just this model of lone woman you see in movies ( i hate such people and even her for this). I found that 2 nights after we met she slept with the guy with whom she cheated her ex. They were still seeing each other she was just looking for someone else. Cant blame her for that i went on few dates with the girl i mentioned before. The bad things followed. I found out that even when we started dating she wrote to that ex. how she would **** him etc... The worst thing in the world is that i read all those Facebook conversations. When she was cheatin on ex and when she wrote to him while beeing with me (2 times). Then she wrote some other ex + posting the pictures of her naked. Finally she cheated on me with some other guys one day when i pissed her. She went out with him, kissed alot let him get his fingers down there. All within one month. I didnt know. I was in paradise. An illusion. So i found out went to confront her. Told her im leaving. This was 3 months after we met and all bad things stopped for about a month. I wanted to be with her she was the love of my life. Meanwhile she realized that i was the love of her life. She says she was scared i just wanted to **** her or what. Cant blame her really for some of that but still. Now its 4 months later. We are still together. I managed to break up with her about 5 times since that. Always got back to her because i cant be without her. I broke up with her really bad many times - just telling her to never contacting me again via text msg etc... She always got back to me when i wanted. We spend every day together. In her place or mine. She does everything too keep me. Literally everything. She pays for me, cooks all this ****. She is always by me. She odesnt go out anymore. Doesnt do anything besides work, then is with me. Whenever i want to. When i tell her to go away she cries terribly, wants to die but when i crawl back saying i made a mistake she always smiles and is there for me and loves me. In nutshell she is now everything what i wanted. Everything. If i died she would die the next moment. She hasnt seen her family for 4 months just to stay with me. She cant live without me. the bad thing is all those memories. I think im kinda hypersensitive. I remember it all, every day. All those msgs about just ****ing. All those msgs they wrote when they were together. The mesgs she wrote to the other ex. The msgs she wrote to guy she cheated me with. I cant deal with it. I want to die every day for 4 months. My life is hell. Pure hell. I mean i finally find a person to free me from the pain i ve been goin thru in my life. And she cheats on me this way. And i am with her because i cant be without her. Its a stalemate situation. I feel like what was supposed to be the greatest happines in my life is the greatest pain. Can you give me any advice ? Or anything. What would you do. What should i maybe do. I m desperate. I cant go on like this for another month. I cant live withouther leaving her behind. It would destroy her and me. I feel like death is my only option. Because yes, she is everything to me, but i still cant forget those things. Thank you.
Darth Vader Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 Hey, let me share my problem here. I ll be glad for any help or personal experience that you ll share with me. Should be interesting to read as well. It all started randomly my friend was browsing some random dating site when i saw the picture of a girl with red curly hair. I instantly fell in love with how she looked, really if you had the one dream person you d want to meet this was her. At it got better - we shared the same interest (at least according to the site) music, literature, live styles.... ( all of them very specific). I d never thought i d find a girl like this. Never. The thing was i was dating this other girl. Not dating probably we were just seeing each other few times a week. Anyway i knew i was doin a bad thing (never cheated in any way on anyone) but i msged her from my friends acc. Long story short. We met, kissed, everything was perfect. For two months. I was scared, never was in a serious relationship (21yrs old), this was my first time. Im very introvert, locked into myself, alone, not understood (yeah everyone says that bout himself, but believe me, just try it). I was acting stupid but i didnt realise it (sometimes showing her pictures of other gilrs i dated, told her i never believe anyone not even her, i dont believe in love etc.). I loved her very much would give my life for her, anything. I just was afraid to say it. One day i did say it. Best moment in my life. Anyways. 3 months later i found out all the bad things. I have to put em all in so you can understand. She is a passionate woman, slept with 9 guys before me - mostly only for sex. Never really loved anyone ( only partly one guy, she cheated on him). Cheated on a guy that loved her just for sex with some other guy. Just this model of lone woman you see in movies ( i hate such people and even her for this). I found that 2 nights after we met she slept with the guy with whom she cheated her ex. They were still seeing each other she was just looking for someone else. Cant blame her for that i went on few dates with the girl i mentioned before. The bad things followed. I found out that even when we started dating she wrote to that ex. how she would **** him etc... The worst thing in the world is that i read all those Facebook conversations. When she was cheatin on ex and when she wrote to him while beeing with me (2 times). Then she wrote some other ex + posting the pictures of her naked. Finally she cheated on me with some other guys one day when i pissed her. She went out with him, kissed alot let him get his fingers down there. All within one month. I didnt know. I was in paradise. An illusion. So i found out went to confront her. Told her im leaving. This was 3 months after we met and all bad things stopped for about a month. I wanted to be with her she was the love of my life. Meanwhile she realized that i was the love of her life. She says she was scared i just wanted to **** her or what. Cant blame her really for some of that but still. Now its 4 months later. We are still together. I managed to break up with her about 5 times since that. Always got back to her because i cant be without her. I broke up with her really bad many times - just telling her to never contacting me again via text msg etc... She always got back to me when i wanted. We spend every day together. In her place or mine. She does everything too keep me. Literally everything. She pays for me, cooks all this ****. She is always by me. She odesnt go out anymore. Doesnt do anything besides work, then is with me. Whenever i want to. When i tell her to go away she cries terribly, wants to die but when i crawl back saying i made a mistake she always smiles and is there for me and loves me. In nutshell she is now everything what i wanted. Everything. If i died she would die the next moment. She hasnt seen her family for 4 months just to stay with me. She cant live without me. the bad thing is all those memories. I think im kinda hypersensitive. I remember it all, every day. All those msgs about just ****ing. All those msgs they wrote when they were together. The mesgs she wrote to the other ex. The msgs she wrote to guy she cheated me with. I cant deal with it. I want to die every day for 4 months. My life is hell. Pure hell. I mean i finally find a person to free me from the pain i ve been goin thru in my life. And she cheats on me this way. And i am with her because i cant be without her. Its a stalemate situation. I feel like what was supposed to be the greatest happines in my life is the greatest pain. Can you give me any advice ? Or anything. What would you do. What should i maybe do. I m desperate. I cant go on like this for another month. I cant live withouther leaving her behind. It would destroy her and me. I feel like death is my only option. Because yes, she is everything to me, but i still cant forget those things. Thank you. She's a cheater! She'll cheat AGAIN! She doesn't Love you if she cheated on you! So please take my advice and, RUN! 2
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