amalburga Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 Long story short: there's this man in whom I'm interested, and we've been out together twice- once to a dinner party together, and more recently, out to supper alone. Both instances we had a lovely time together. I really felt as though we had some chemistry- conversations became much friendlier and easier, we discovered we had a lot in common, etc. and he seemed to, as well, because he suggested that we do something together this weekend. I told him that I'd love to, and asked him to call me up when he had time. It's now Sunday afternoon, so the odds of us having plans materialize for the weekend seem remarkably slim. I know that it's definitely a bad move on my part to ask him point-blank why he never called or planned anything, but I wondered if any contact, at all, could be appropriate e.g. just dropping him a message letting him know that I'd checked out a particular book he'd recommended and enjoyed it, and see if that conversation reminds him that we were supposed to have plans. If he says nothing of it, I'll take a hint, and assume he's uninterested. I just don't want to let a potentially good relationship opportunity go because I misinterpreted his actions (is there any possibility at all that he honestly just forgot? I mean, he and I are both students at a prestigious university, and we're both enrolled in summer courses, so he's certainly busy). Thoughts as to how to proceed?
xpaperxcutx Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 No matter how busy a guy may be, he will try to make time for someone he likes. Perhaps from your point of view, you guys did had a great time together but from his, he was probably lukewarm. Also from the lack of contact on his side, he just doesn't seem all that interested. Just let it go. 4
CarrieT Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 I know that it's definitely a bad move on my part to ask him point-blank why he never called or planned anything VERY bad move. but I wondered if any contact, at all, could be appropriate e.g. just dropping him a message letting him know that I'd checked out a particular book he'd recommended and enjoyed it, and see if that conversation reminds him that we were supposed to have plans. Nope. Too obvious you are grasping. Thoughts as to how to proceed? Do not contact. As said, if he were interested, he would have made the time and contacted you. He might still, but don't chase him and don't remind him that he said he was going to call. Let it go. 3
Author amalburga Posted June 30, 2013 Author Posted June 30, 2013 Thank you both for your honestly! I won't contact him, then, unless he decides to contact me.
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