Merryxc Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 Hello, I am new here and i would really like some advice from anyone who is willing to help here, it's quite a long story but il keep it as short as I can Well my boyfriend has just recently broke up with me again! We were together for almost 2 years, everything was perfect the first year, he was amazing with me, made me laugh, always spent lots of time together, but then it all changed! He is 26 with two little girls from previous relationships, and I am 22 with no kids. I always knew it would be hard to take that on, but I was willing to do that. We moved in together after a year, that's when things got tough, his ex would cause problems, we would argue allot, never had time together or never had money and it was very stressful! He left me twice, I understand he was under a lot of stress at the time and me nagging made it worse, those two breakups only lasted a few days. We finally came to the decision to give up our house, it was too much at the time and we decided to give it up and enjoy our life's a little and enjoy each others company again before we decided to really settle down and get a new house again! Well everything was great for around 2 months, but then he went on holiday with is dad, lied about a few things and we had an argument over the phone 3days before he was due to come home and he broke up with me again! He said he did not want a relationship and wanted to be single for a while, I guess he enjoyed his freedom! We broke up for 5 weeks, still in contact and we hung out a few times, he came back to me and wanted me back, told me he was stupid for what he done and wanted to try again, so I said yes! Back together 2 weeks, 1st week was amazing, he treated me like he used to and promised to show me more how much he cares! Then he got distant again in the second week, we had plans on the sat and I booked a hotel to surprise him, went got a new outfit, and was looking forward to it! He was out with his friends on Friday (he said he wanted to see his friends more, which I agreed to, and allowed him to see them and have never stopped him) when I called him on sat morning, he had been up all night drinking, I got angry and told him we are supposed to be doing something and I have booked a hotel for you, he told me to **** off and put the phone down on me! I tried to call him back and text but he ignored me I had to cancel the hotel and lost the money. He text me on Tuesday, he said he had been out drinking from Friday and didn't get home until the Monday, he said he screwed everything up and he will never learn. He then text and said, he no longer wants us, to call it a day and he can't hurt me anymore and I'm better off without him! I am do confused, why did he come back after those 5 weeks to do this to me, he promised he was 100% and wanted to be with me! I have tried to text him since (1week since breakup) and he has been ignoring me completely! I love this man so much, I have done so much for him and his kids, I tried my best and always showed how much he meant to me. He always has a way to let me down! It seems every time he knows he is wrong, he breaks up with me and runs away instead if apologising. I dont know what to do, I have tried to talk to him wi no success, I just don't get how he can do this and turn off his feelings for me, he was madly in love with me! Can someone please give me some advice, what can I do, I know I need to stop trying to talk to him and chase him! I wish for once he would realise what he's done and chase me! I'm just heartbroken.....
aloneinaz Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 I know you don't want to hear this but your relationship sounds very toxic. You guys are breaking up far too often for not so old a relationship. You don't appear to be compatible either. My opinion is you need to move on to find someone else who you get along with better. Why would you want to stay in a relationship with someone who breaks up with you every other week? How can you ever trust him to do as he says. I know you're in pain and miss him. i get that but you need to push through the pain and get to the other side to happiness with someone you can get along wtih. 1
SimonSerenade Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 I second the comment above, it sounds very toxic, you deserve better than somebody who doesn't know if he wants you from one day to the next, that's just plain cruel, take it from someone who's been there, a month later the only feeling I have is relief, all the rest just falls away.
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