sii_11 Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 I've been dating a really nice guy for about 3 months already. We are both 20 and I would say kind of inexperienced in dating, and we've only had 1 bf/gf each. Yesterday he invited me to go out with him and I told him yes. After I send him my message he didn't text back until 2 and a half hours later saying that he was with his sister and that when he finished he would pick me up. He didn't text back anymore. Until today he texted back again saying he was sorry about yesterday because he was busy with his sister. I don't know if I should text him back? I'm really disappointed in him, because he could've send me a message last night that he wouldn't be able to go out with me, and I would've understand and not gotten upset. But he didn't. I would appreciate ya'lls advice on what you think? Thank you
white Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 My sister and I aren't close and I can't imagine myself helping her out in any way that prevented me from contacting my date for 2 days. That sounds retarded. Perhaps other peoples sibling relationships are different. That said, people seem to **** the hell around with letting each other down on the contact front all the god damn time. I really don't know what the deal is. We live in an era when words can be exchanged across the planet in ten seconds with devices in our pockets. My parents generation would have to walk into town and wait for their turn on the local payphone, and they managed to keep each other on message about what was going on. Chalk it up to ****ing stupid behaviour. God knows I see enough young people now who are never off their phones. You people must deliberately put them down to avoid speaking to each other. Either that or its a deliberate cruel game you play and further evidence the worlds going down the pan.
happywithlife Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 I would definitely call him out on that type of behavior. You can calmly mention that he really left you hanging and you don't tolerate people who say they will meet you and never show up or communicate to let you know you won't be able to make it. Let him know a simple text stating he was sorry and still tied up would have sufficed. If you let that behavior continue he'll keep disrespecting your boundaries. And, if you have the talk with him and he continues to stand you up for dates, he isn't worth dating.
sark-4 Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 Had that done to me many times. Its distespectful and it will continue if you let it go. I learned the hard way. You should call him out on it.
clia Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 Were you sitting around waiting for him to pick you up? 1
shexy Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 No matter who he says he was with, he totally just blew you off. That was really rude, and you shouldn't let him get away with that.
Author sii_11 Posted July 1, 2013 Author Posted July 1, 2013 Were you sitting around waiting for him to pick you up? Sadly I was...
BluEyeL Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 OK, I suggest you do this. You tell him, CALMLY, that him blowing you off that way made you feel disrespected. And then say nothing more. Then continue to go out with him and watch for his behavior. If he repeats the offense, or gets into another situation when he shows that he doesn't care much about your feelings, drop him. Let's say everyone can make on mistake. If this becomes a pattern, then of course it's not wise to stay.
Author sii_11 Posted July 1, 2013 Author Posted July 1, 2013 Thanks everyone for your opinions and advice. He keeps texting me that he is sorry. His relationship with his sister is different because of his culture (he is international student from saudi) So he has to go with his sister if she goes somewhere.
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