KS1191 Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3][/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]So I’ve been having a tough time making sense of the recentevents that sent my 2 ½ year relationship spiraling into the ground at suchhigh velocity… let me give everyone a back story on what had recently unfoldedin the last few weeks… [/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3][/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]My girlfriend (now ex of 1 week) and I had recently returnedfrom an AI vacation from Mexicowith her best friend and my 2 best friends. while we were there it was nothingbut drama from our friends as her friend and mine continued to play games witheach other… her friend originally was trying to date one of my friends thenwhen she didn’t feel he was moving quick enough he tried to make him jealous byhitting on my other friend who was there… this eventually back fired on herhaving both of them blow up at her and she ended up segregated herself to adifferent group of people for the remainder of the trip…[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3][/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]A week passed after returning home and my girlfriend’s best friendmoved back into the city for the summer after finishing her latest semester atschool and within days of this happening her friend found a new boyfriend andmine became a little distant and would constantly be with her friend… anotherfew days went by and my girlfriend left to go to a movie with her, I sent her atext later asking what she was up to and she blew up saying “she doesn’t needto let me know what she’s is doing at all times” and on and on with similarcontext eventually she said she wanted a “break” I told her I didn’t agree withthat and we should discuss what’s bothering her so she agreed to come see me aday later after she had calmed down… the day came and we talked about anyoutlying issues and she agreed to start fresh and work on us after the weekendas she had already made plans with her best friend again, she looked me in theeye said “I love you” kissed me and walked out the door… the weekend came andher friend started tagging her in group pictures with her and their close groupof friends, which I didn’t think much about as I knew all of them, though I wasstarting to get a bit worried I gave her the space she asked for that weekend…only to see on the Sunday her tagged by her friend in a picture kissing anotherguy (the guy was her bestfriends ex boyfriend of 4years) and I lost it,everything sunk and I couldn’t breath I started calling her and messaging herto no avail… finally I get one little cold text saying “well I like him” wehadn’t talked since then and I deleted her from every aspect of my life to thebest of my abilities… recently I wrote a letter to her mainly for me to try andstraighten out my head as thoughts were flying in and out so fast I couldn’t processanything… I wasn’t sure if I would ever send it to her but as the letterprogressed it asked every question I needed to get out there and it looked backto all the great moments along with all the intense moments that made us somuch stronger (or so I thought). It’s been a week today since all this unfoldedand I broke NC on Thursday to ask her to get the remainder of her things (asshe lived with me and there was a lot left) and all I asked in return was sheread the letter I wrote her… which she agreed to (now as I write this she hadmessaged me for the first time since then saying what she’s doing tonight andmight be late tomorrow to pick up her belongings and I have yet to reply tothis) I truly don’t know what to expect from her reading what I wrote but I alwayspray for the best but I’m expecting the worst. My apologies if some of mythoughts became scattered throughout this I’m usually much more, well spoken. (Ican post the letter in here too if anyone wants/needs a much, much longer backstory).[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3][/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3] [/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3][/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]I think the thing I’m having the hardest time with was I wasplanning my proposal in two months from now on a trip we had planned together…all she knew about was the concert I was taking her to for her birthday… wewere going to see her our favorite country singer and I had booked a suite inthe top hotel in Vancouver overlooking the harbor on sunset along with a yachtto take us out on the ocean.[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3][/sIZE][/FONT]
hoping2heal Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 Her friend may be immature and thrive on drama but her friend didn't do anything to your relationship. Your ex girlfriend is a free agent. She isn't mind-controlled by the friend. We all have people in our lives who like to push their influence on us. Everyone from family to friends and all in between. Just because someone tells us to do something doesn't mean we have to do it. We choose to do it. Your girlfriend chose to execute all of the actions that she did. She wasn't hypnotized into doing them. She did them because she wanted to. It might not seem like much consolation now, but you almost married this girl. It's better she does this now than after you've already given her the ring.
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