adelia Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 I'm having a really hard time coping with a slow process break up. I've never been through a breakup like this before. It is really destroying my inner strength and my peace. I'm trying to keep it together around people because I don't want them to know what I'm dealing with. I just need some strength and words of encouragement. I've never been good with change and this is a huge one. I try to think of the positives of ending the relationship and why it has to happen but it still hurts so much. I was friends with this person and I hate loosing that along with the relationship but I know it was all based on lies and deceit. I'm going to miss them so much it feels like a death of a loved one. I don't know how I'll get through this I'm just a mess. How can you get over someone who never felt the same way about you it sounds ridiculous but I really loved them and I'm finding it so hard to let go
Babolat Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 Hi adelia, I have been where you are. My suggestion is to study the steps of grieving and let them happen naturally, maybe not in order. I have been going thru a slow break up. I ended a 12 mont relationship 3 months ago. I think about her all the time. It was not a bad break up at all, which I think makes it more painful. She has recently expressed an interest in trying again, coming up with compromises. Which makes it even more difficult. 1
SimonSerenade Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 You live your life, give yourself time to grieve and accept its okay to do so, one day you'll match his feelings and eventually you'll feel nothing, don't think about him anymore, all those questions inside your soul don't matter anymore now that he's gone, look forward to the guy who's going to be all that and a bag of chips for you rather than looking back at the guy that wasn't, there's no shame in what you feeling, everybody goes through it, if you need your friends, lean on them and keep moving, you'll be fine and on your way in a few weeks, trust me, stay out of his way and he'll stay out of your mind, take care of yourself. 1
Author adelia Posted June 30, 2013 Author Posted June 30, 2013 I think it's the grieving part and missing them that's the hardest part. I have no one I can talk to about it either which makes it even worse. I've been through a break up before so I know I can survive it but it still is so hard because every relationship is different. I've also come to really depend on them which looking back was not smart. You can't expect someone to make your life happy you have to do that for yourself. It's been very complex. I know the hardest part is in the weeks to come when they're truly gone.
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