maestrok Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 Do you just tell him upfront that you are upset because this and that? I am worried to do that becuase i feel like guys are almost always turned off by what they think is "nagging." But then I still want to point him out what upsets me so that he wont repeat it. What is a good way to do this?
MrCastle Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 If I think there is still a shot at hooking up/working things out I will play it cool and vent my frustrations somewhere else. Going for a drive to clear my head, playing music, working out, etc. If I know what they did is beyond repair, I will let them have it, flat out. I'm not afraid of confrontation or bridge burning, if I feel the person deserved it and truly needed to see how bad they messed up. If not for me, just so they're more aware of their actions for the next person who comes along.
MrCastle Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 To better answer your question--nagging is being repetitive. If you see yourself constantly having to say the same things, it's annoying for both sides. That's what I consider nagging. Hearing something over and over. I tell people something once. That's it. I then move forward with the belief they heard me loud and clear. If they mess up in a way that tells me they didn't listen to what we talked about previously, I will drop them. Life is too short to spend trying to make relationships work. You guys either understand each other and have chemistry or you don't. 1
Author maestrok Posted June 30, 2013 Author Posted June 30, 2013 Thanks for your response. I have one more question. I feel like many guys i am dating stops planning things ahead of time or asking me well ahead of time after the first or second date (i.e. when they realize that I am interested in them). Is this normal? How should i go about addressing the issue? (for example, i was supposed to meet a guy tonight and we hadnt set a time so he said he will get in touch today which he hasnt. Should I text and ask if hes still up for it? I dont want to come across desperate but the fact that hes keepinh me awaitig really frustrates me....)
pureinheart Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 To better answer your question--nagging is being repetitive. If you see yourself constantly having to say the same things, it's annoying for both sides. That's what I consider nagging. Hearing something over and over. I tell people something once. That's it. I then move forward with the belief they heard me loud and clear. If they mess up in a way that tells me they didn't listen to what we talked about previously, I will drop them. Life is too short to spend trying to make relationships work. You guys either understand each other and have chemistry or you don't. This is the proper way to do it. To not hear you afterwards says, "I'm going to do what I want regardless of how you feel, or what you want"...and that's cool, they have that right. Both can be controlling, but nagging really is...BTDT.
pureinheart Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 Thanks for your response. I have one more question. I feel like many guys i am dating stops planning things ahead of time or asking me well ahead of time after the first or second date (i.e. when they realize that I am interested in them). Is this normal? How should i go about addressing the issue? (for example, i was supposed to meet a guy tonight and we hadnt set a time so he said he will get in touch today which he hasnt. Should I text and ask if hes still up for it? I dont want to come across desperate but the fact that hes keepinh me awaitig really frustrates me....) I would say they feel the chase is over...meaning they may not be interested anymore- avoid those type like the plague. I would also say they/he could possibly be seeing if "something better comes up"...when it starts getting open ended like that, without an established relationship, it's time to roll.
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