Jbum5 Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 The following is meant to invoke some thoughts from both sides: A proud girl is dating a proud guy. In this case, proud means both are successful at what they do and they know they are successful people (both in their careers and dating for example). Without getting to know the girl, some would take one look at her and refer to her as the "princess type" (and to him as the "whipping boy"). And to some extent this may be correct, because while in a relationship she expects many things from the guy including: - planning all dates (this is how her exes all did it) - having a good sense of direction so he can lead her everywhere when they are together (this makes her feel more secure/safe) - be in control of himself despite the many up and down mood swings she will have - not be a mommy's boy This girl looks, laughs, and seems like a little immature school girl, but she's mature and even mother-like when she's not mood-swinging. However, come a mood swing and she'll lose her temper really quick. She'll yell at the guy and say the most mean things to him. If he reacts negatively, a fight will ensue. If he doesn't react negatively, she'll continue to let it all out. Either way, she'll find a time after it all blows over to apologize to him. This happens very often. The guy, on the other hand, knows this girl well by now (they've been exclusive for a while, and started off as friends prior to the relationship). He is still, more often than not, hurt by many of her mean comments but tries his best to hold it in. She knows this too, and admires him for his self-control and maturity especially since she knows that she lacks the former (as well as the latter when she mood swings). Even as former friends, she has always admired the similar values, thought processes, and kindheartedness this guy possesses. In fact, she's attracted to him, but not physically as much as she is to those other things. Now the guy knows this because she has been brutally honest with him. But he also knows that he's what many girls would deem attractive physically so he feels a bit surprised that he ended up in a relationship where the girl is not actually attracted to him physically. He's confident about himself but not cocky. But he's also getting worn out by his girl's constant mood swings, fights, and mean comments. He feels that although those are all included in any relationship package, the frequency at which they happen in this particular one may be a little too much to bear. He has always put forth 110% but is feeling unappreciated overall by her. She knows all this, but has admitted to him that she doesn't know how to take care of someone and make them feel loved, that she only knows how to receive but not give because that's how she was raised. They care about each other very much otherwise. What should he do? What should she do? Have fun.
FitChick Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 He has the choice to walk away if he has other options. No one likes a martyr. She needs to have her hormones balanced. 1
Yookie Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 He should grow a pair and get out already. She needs therapy. 1
sillyanswer Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 It seems that there are no consequences to her unacceptable behaviour. There should be, starting with him telling her not to behave like a brat and ending with him walking out the very next time she does it.
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