MorganDreamer Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 This guy I have been texting with for a year, he is 14 years older than me. Well he is 35 and I am 21. I fell in love online in the distance, I can accept everything he is, except this thing, it haunts me every time when I think about our relationship. He is single, he told me that he didn't want to go back in the heart break situation because of his major break-up (5 YEARS AGO) ... I used to ask if he was seeing someone, and he said he was not, but there were girls who he was seeing but started saying "I love you" after a month and he was not ready, so he broke it down. I was afraid to tell him that I loved him, but we have been together for a year, he always told me that he liked me, and he seemed care. So I ended up getting it off my chest, and he said he loved me too ... But I didn't ask why he loved me when he was afraid to be in a serious relationship again, maybe it's because we are so far away, and this way I can't hurt him, I guess. He honestly answered me when I asked him if he was still into his ex. He told me that he was still in love with her, but he hated her, and if she came back begging him to be with her again, he wouldn't go back. I read him and I know he is so much still in love with her. But he told me that he loved me, this is complicated and kind of confusing situation. I got hurt that time I heard the true, but I didn't tell him. My friends told me not to worry about his past, because that is the past. They said I should focus on how he feels for me, but I can't. I am so sensitive, and that is my weakness. How can he really love me when he is in love with his ex? I don't know what he is thinking, or what he is feeling. I want to figure it out, but I don't want to ask him. It bugs me so much to know that those 5 years didn't heal him at all. Those 5 years didn't remove her out of his heart at all. I just want to know why ... I can't get myself the best answer, so I need someone who can help me. Anybody please, if anyone of you used to face this situation like I do, please help me. I need the advices. It haunts me...
veggirl Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 Have you ever even met this guy?! And yes if a guy says he hates or loves an ex, you should run for the hills. It means you are second best (at best!). Seriously, forget this guy he will never give you what you want. Hello it's been a year...what progress has been made? none. Find a local guy your own age to date...
KatZee Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 This guy has major baggage, I would advise you run away as fast as you possibly can. He's holding a major torch for his ex, and regardless of the fact that he "hates her" and wouldn't go back to her, the fact that his emotions are still raging so strong for her... he's not emotionally available TO YOU. Try to find someone in your general area so you can actually have a REAL relationship. 1
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