MorganDreamer Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 (edited) I met him online a year ago, we admitted to each other that we were in love with each other, we text everyday. He is a nice person, and he makes me happy like a sunshine to me. I am 21 and he is 35, he completely changed my dating vision forever. ... but this is what I am going to ask you guys for the advice ... I have this girl as a friend of mine, she is 16 and we are so close. I was the person who introduced my guy and my friend together, because I wanted them to be friends, I mainly wanted my friend to like my guy tho, because she didn't think I should date a 35yold guy I met online at the first place, so well I made them friends and they are friends now... BUT the thing is I started to be jealous because they are texting each other a lot, my guy started to send my friend his pictures, and when she was sad he was there to comfort her. My friend and I were in trouble recently, and she just quitted texting me for like 2days, then she came back. She came back, and told me that she missed me a lot, and apologised to me for texting my guy. She said, that day she was sad, and she couldn't text me, so she texted him. She told me that he said sweet things to her, but it was not that way. She showed me their conversations, she said she needed hug and he said "huuuug" back!!! ... I kinda know from deep inside that they are just friends, but I just can't stop thinking about this. I might be thinking too much as who I am a really thoughtful person. My guy is my friend's father's age, so I'm sure that he isn't flirting with her, he would be nuts to flirt with a girl who is 20 years younger, and I think I know him enough. But I doubt it, do I really know him at all? he is just a guy I met online, maybe the way he texts was an illusion. Anybody please give me advice, I'm so blind, I don't know what to do, or how to handle it. I stopped texting both of them right now because I need a space, but I have been sad all the time ... Edited June 30, 2013 by MorganDreamer
soccerrprp Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 MD, This is not good. I don't like the tenor of this. It seems that he has a pension for younger women and yes, you don't know him that well at all. So, you have not met physically, correct? It sounds like it's all been online, right? Essentially, you're dating electronically...ugh. It could be an ego-boosting thing for this guy, but his communication with a 16-year old at his age is not an activity that demonstrates prudence. Exchanging pictures of one another goes beyond being just friends in my book. This is, at least, flirting. Just my thoughts. I am also curious as to why you have close friend that is so much younger than yourself? A 16-yr old? Believe me, there are differences (or should be) in perspective and maturity between a 16-yr old and 21. Also, how does this guy make you feel good? He's only been texting. Again, have you met physically? People can say and create all kinds of images/perceptions that may be misleading when done electronically. I think you should think more carefully about what is happening and within its proper context. Remember, if this is an electronic relationship, then it is only a phantom of one. Real, but certainly not concrete. BUT, if this guy is physically present, then all such concerns aforementioned should still apply. I suspect that you would not know if they have met clandestinely, would you? Be careful. Ask your friend how you feel and see where that goes. If either of them care, one or the other will desist.
clia Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 Have you met him in person? I got the creeps just reading your post. Honestly, if he is all about talking to a girl 14 years younger (you), then going another five years past that doesn't mean much. Any 35 year old man who is texting with a 16 year old regularly who isn't his niece or daughter has issues. The entire situation sounds massively dysfunctional. Can't you find a guy in your city who is your age to date? Why are you having a relationship with an old man who lives nowhere near you? 1
KungFuJoe Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 Did not even have to read the opening post to know the answer is YES.
shexy Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 This guy gives me the creeps. No 35 year old man should be friends with a 16 year old girl He's old enough to be her dad. And I'll just add that the maturity level between a 21 year old and a 35 year old is the difference between night and day..... If your gut is telling you something wrong is going on, then listen to your gut. What kind of creeper guy texts a 16 year old girl?????? I recommend you AND your friend date within your own age group. 1
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