Chinchii-Rae Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 Hey guys, this is my first time on one of these sites but I am totally stuck and confused by this situation and thought it could be good to try it out. So I've been dating this guy for about 3 weeks now and don't get me wrong he's a great guy, I like him a lot and I was over the moon when he asked me to be his girlfriend. Despite this I've been feeling really weird about our relationship as he sort of acts like we're still friends. His hugs are really awkward like he's hugging someone he's sort of friends with but not really and we kiss occasionally, when we say hi or goodbye and even then he hesitates before kissing me and often asks if he can beforehand... I'm his first official girlfriend, so I'm not sure if that could be the cause but either way it's making me really uncomfortable. I'm sort of feeling like we took the friendship we had and tried to force it into a relationship and I'm really not sure what I should do. He is the sweetest guy and I can see that this relationship makes him really happy, I feel really bad having these feelings now because I just met all his friends and family. I have no idea what to do, help!
Betty7 Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 Hello! I was curious how old you are firstly?! But if it is his first relationship I believe that his awkwardness is normal. If he isn't used to intimacy maybe you can help me along. Have you tried communicating to him how you want him to treat you eg. boundaries?!
Author Chinchii-Rae Posted June 30, 2013 Author Posted June 30, 2013 Hi! I'm 19 about to turn 20. I haven't talked to him about it yet because I figured it was just the unfamiliarity of being in a relationship and I wanted some advice before I brought it up, maybe I'm just being silly. I'm just really unsure of what to do.
Betty7 Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 Your not being silly! If he's feeling awkward about making moves maybe you need to instigate some of it and teach him how it's done!!
Author Chinchii-Rae Posted June 30, 2013 Author Posted June 30, 2013 Haha I might do that, and bring up with him maybe. Thank you!!
white Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 I do not miss being 19, no sir, I can do without this sort of thing. 25 now, I wouldn't mind being that again. Communication is the key. Learn to be open and talk about what you want and don't want while you're young so you don't have the same problems later and you don't struggle with questions you never answered. Many people don't ever wrap their heads around this concept and it costs them all their lives.
Lansing Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 Ifi were you I sold definitely iniate more. My first GF was on only the 2nd girl I ever dated. We were friends for 6 months before hand and I was kind of sure how to transition it into a relationship. I recall she grabbed my hand the first time we went for a walk and initiated some physical contact because I was still a bit hesitant what to do. In retrospect I should have been more aggressive but I didn't know better at the time. Try to make him more comfortable with the contact and make it clear you like him that way and give it a chance assuming everything else is good in the relationship.
shexy Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 If you're his first girlfriend, he's probably just nervous about it and trying to figure out the boundaries and what you want and he feels like he's supposed to do. I will mention too that sexual chemistry is a big part of a relationship.....whether or not you guys have had sex yet, I think two people have to 'click' in that area, and it can't really be forced.
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