Seriously, what would worst happen if you just let your ex that you still love her?

[Lani]

She is 19 and she lives with her parents and I've never been to her flat but she always came to mine.

 

Okay, only e-mail but still doubting to send it.[/quote

 

Yeah, I still vote to not send it.

Just giving you tr best options for if you do.

 

If I can be sure that she is moving on that would be so much easier for me. I feel like she is there and missing me and wanting me too.

 

She broke up with you right? If that's the case, then she's have told you if she thought it had been a mistake.

[halaluyaa]

She is 19 and she lives with her parents and I've never been to her flat but she always came to mine.

 

Okay, only e-mail but still doubting to send it.[/quote

 

Yeah, I still vote to not send it.

Just giving you tr best options for if you do.

 

 

 

She broke up with you right? If that's the case, then she's have told you if she thought it had been a mistake.

 

Before she break up I suggested breaking up too. Because she told me she sees me as a friend more than a bf. And I did lots of mistakes too in our relationship.

 

Does that make any difference?

[Sneaky]

If I can be sure that she is moving on that would be so much easier for me. I feel like she is there and missing me and wanting me too.

 

Her silence is all the confirmation you need. She contacted you once in five weeks, right? In a platonic context. If she'd really miss you want wanted you back don't you think she would put a little bit of effort into letting you know?

[Lani]

 

Before she break up I suggested breaking up too. Because she told me she sees me as a friend more than a bf. And I did lots of mistakes too in our relationship.

 

Does that make any difference?

 

Ew. I stuffed the quote so bad. Oops

 

It makes no difference.

I really think you need to just let it go.

[halaluyaa]

Her silence is all the confirmation you need. She contacted you once in five weeks, right? In a platonic context. If she'd really miss you want wanted you back don't you think she would put a little bit of effort into letting you know?

 

At our talk she always tried to talk more and more. She asked weird questions like she is going to Work and Travel to USA and asked me what people do there for work? And told me she will quit her job. It was like she likes talking to me but also afraid to ask me out again.

 

It was like she was waiting for me to initiate the first action. But on the other hand she said she will send my stuff back which I care a lot and asked for it back when we broke up and she said no.

 

Also it has been 10 days and she still hasn't sent back??? What is that? We live in same city and if she gives it to the post it takes max 1-2 days..

[halaluyaa]

 

Ew. I stuffed the quote so bad. Oops

 

It makes no difference.

I really think you need to just let it go.

 

I think you are right.

 

Maybe it is wrong but I will try to use her as a motivational fuel. I will improve myself and hoping that one day we will be together again and then she will love me again.

 

I need some motivation.

 

I will read, workout, work, socialize and get improved and be my bestself while dreaming to be with her.

 

Before this one, I get cheated by another ex. And before we broke up we had a deal that I would have 6 pack on my abs in 3 months. She said I can't, I said I can.

 

Then she cheated and I worked out so hard just to make her show I can do it and it was an amazing motivational fuel for me.

 

And then it was weird but in 3 months ı met this ex. And ı fell in love and forgot about other ex.

 

Life is weird.

[Simon Phoenix]

Don't email, don't write a letter, don't do anything. Leave it be.

[halaluyaa]

Don't email, don't write a letter, don't do anything. Leave it be.

 

I think that's what I will do. It will only make me look pathetic and I looked pathetic enough in that relationship.

[Simon Phoenix]

I think that's what I will do. It will only make me look pathetic and I looked pathetic enough in that relationship.

 

Yep, now is not the time. Maybe when emotions have settled you can talk to her again, but right now you are virtually guaranteed of a) making an ass of yourself or b) getting thrown into a confusing situation that will end of messing with your head. The solution to everything (moving on, getting your head straight, possible reconciliation) is time. There's no time limit on this stuff. Now is time to work on you and only you. You can't get her (or anyone else) without getting yourself back.

[halaluyaa]

Yep, now is not the time. Maybe when emotions have settled you can talk to her again, but right now you are virtually guaranteed of a) making an ass of yourself or b) getting thrown into a confusing situation that will end of messing with your head. The solution to everything (moving on, getting your head straight, possible reconciliation) is time. There's no time limit on this stuff. Now is time to work on you and only you. You can't get her (or anyone else) without getting yourself back.

 

That is so true. After my e-mail or text whatever, she may want to meet me. And I really wouldn't want her to see me like this.

 

I'm such a mess. I lost 6 kg after break up, stopped caring for myself and have very very low selfesteem right now. Only good thing in my life is my work which is not even slightly related to my relationship.

 

So when I get my **** together, then I can think of contacting her. But now is not the right time. True.