solidusjr Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 ok this is my first post and I'm ESL student so bare with me the ex girfriend and I have been together for one month already but she dumped me last Wednesday and over the phone Saturday she texted me telling me that she want to meet for some closure I agreed to meet her, there I found out the truth about why she dumped me. It was because she met this other guy that probably flirted with her and also they both have in common that they have a strong Christianity faith and probably she was attracted to him because of that. after we met for the closure later that night she texted me telling me that one of her friends made her realize the big mistake she has made and that she is willing to "give us" a second chance only if I'm up to it and she promises that will make it up to me and blah blah and that if I don't want to that she would understand Any Advice on how to proceed ?
Woggle Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 In other words this guy didn't want her and she is going back to her backup. 4
hotpotato Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 She needs to prove she wants you back. Whatever you do, dont take her back immediately. Make her work for it if you are considering taking her back.
jerryh Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 If you love her and the problems that caused the breakup have been resolved, go for it man if she makes you happy. i know loads here including myself who would love a second chance! 2
tbf Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 If you take her back, what's to stop her from finding the grass greener with someone else? Personally, I'd find this relationship done since trust and respect have been lost. 1
Waz Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 Come on mate. It's an one month relationship and she already made this thing. You didn't even start getting to know each other, it's too soon. And she left you for another guy ? It's ridiculous that you are having thoughts of giving it a second shot Have some self-respect mate. Don't go back. Even if you do want to stay now, go away. It will be appreciated from both sides: After some time you will realize that you dodged a bullet (before emotional attachment) and you kept your self-respect. And, she will realize that you have self-respect and this kind of behavior will not be tolerated by you. So, even if she won't chase you for a second chance, you would see that it was much better of not getting back together. Think the other way: Even if you get back with her, you will worry constantly if she finds another guy. Also, by not giving it a second shot, it will hit her ego hard and i'm sure she will remember you forever. And she deserves that. she is willing to "give us" a second chanceI laughed hard. After what she has done, she still thinks that she can have the right to decide if *she* wants to give it a second chance. Good luck mate, don't screw up. 1
crederer Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 You were only in a relationship for one month. She probably has self esteem issues and will go for any guy that gives her attention. Not long term material.
Author solidusjr Posted August 5, 2013 Author Posted August 5, 2013 Update: Thanks to your posts guys I knew what I was getting into by taking her back it lasted another month lol and just a week ago we decided to end the relationship permanently
keepontruckin Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 Once they leave, they'll continue to leave, unless dynamics drastically change. My soon to be ex is proof of this. I was tired of her whines about the faults of all her ex boyfriends, and even though we married, I will now be the first on the list of her complaints about how terrible all her ex husbands were:laugh: People like this are good at one thing... Running. That's all they do, and that most likely all they will ever do.
jesse93 Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 Update: Thanks to your posts guys I knew what I was getting into by taking her back it lasted another month lol and just a week ago we decided to end the relationship permanently well, this was just a short term relationship I don't think it was ever meant to get serious to begin with. You don't seem to be too upset by it, so i guess you're doing alright. 1
Radu Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 ok this is my first post and I'm ESL student so bare with me the ex girfriend and I have been together for one month already but she dumped me last Wednesday and over the phone Saturday she texted me telling me that she want to meet for some closure I agreed to meet her, there I found out the truth about why she dumped me. It was because she met this other guy that probably flirted with her and also they both have in common that they have a strong Christianity faith and probably she was attracted to him because of that. after we met for the closure later that night she texted me telling me that one of her friends made her realize the big mistake she has made and that she is willing to "give us" a second chance only if I'm up to it and she promises that will make it up to me and blah blah and that if I don't want to that she would understand Any Advice on how to proceed ? The other guy was not that great or he split, her friend is probably real and probably dispensed some advice. You are being placed on the backburner. A situation like this would be tough to recover from even if you were together yrs, but at 1 month the only way she will ever respect you is to not give in. And women cannot love you if they can't respect you. You don't really have much of a choice.
Radu Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 Update: Thanks to your posts guys I knew what I was getting into by taking her back it lasted another month lol and just a week ago we decided to end the relationship permanently I didn't see the difference in dates. Was it 'we' or more like 'her' ?
happydate Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 (edited) ok this is my first post and I'm ESL student so bare with me the ex girfriend and I have been together for one month already but she dumped me last Wednesday and over the phone Saturday she texted me telling me that she want to meet for some closure I agreed to meet her, there I found out the truth about why she dumped me. It was because she met this other guy that probably flirted with her and also they both have in common that they have a strong Christianity faith and probably she was attracted to him because of that. after we met for the closure later that night she texted me telling me that one of her friends made her realize the big mistake she has made and that she is willing to "give us" a second chance only if I'm up to it and she promises that will make it up to me and blah blah and that if I don't want to that she would understand Any Advice on how to proceed ? I'll give you a little piece of advise. Christians "date" other Christians. Catholics in particular are VERY STRICT on this. It's in the scripture of the bible. Also, you've got other problems and that is, when you guys plan to get married and if she's a Catholic, the church demands that you convert your faith into Christianity. So in a way, her reasons dumping you is mainly religion. But she like you more than this Christian guy so she went back with you. Unfortunately because you are clearly not in faith with the Lord and Jesus Christ, she's fighting herself with what she loves and her religion which she cherished. She's dating both you and her religion. In this case, her religion wins. I thought you and some of us here ought to know before calling this girl lacking with self-esteem and a GIGS. Maybe a GIGS with the Lord. Edited August 5, 2013 by happydate
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