70K20 Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 My ex left me and the kids 18 and 14 about 18 months ago.She see's the kids once a week and I think is suffering from some kind of mid-life but I really don't/can't understand it.But it appears the politically correct thing to do is let them be free and well maybe,but not likely,they may make it back.But my question is this,it seems I find myself helping her out with situations like car problems and condo problems and moving furninture thingys...you know.But it is not right for me to say,take care of that on your own and leave them to fend for themselves and live/learn life like the rest of us?I don't feel i should be any sort of safety net.She left to look for something different or better I don't know...should I tell het to get her stalling jeep checked by someone else?
Barby Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 .But it is not right for me to say,take care of that on your own and leave them to fend for themselves and live/learn life like the rest of us?I don't feel i should be any sort of safety net.She left to look for something different or better I don't know...should I tell het to get her stalling jeep checked by someone else? She chose to LEAVE the relationship AND her children so she should get the "independence" she wants! STOP bailing her out, let her pay for things on her own, let her fix her own problems....she doesn't want the "responsibility" of being with you so WHY should she get the "benefits" either??? Make her fend for herself like she wanted...good luck I'm sorry she left you but sounds like you're better off w/out her!
bluechocolate Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 I think Barby is right. You don't have to be mean about it, just be busy the next few times she needs assistance.
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