All consumed by this breakup!

[andilyn1]

Does anyone else find themselves being completely consumed by your breakup? It has been 2 weeks since I left my abusive boyfriend, and I swear he is always on my mind in some way or another. And he's the last thing I think about before bed and the first thing when I wake up, and a million times throughout the day. It really is driving me crazy, and it seems the harder I try to stop thinking about my ex, the more I end up thinking about him. Please tell me I am not the only one struggling with this. I've tried reading, music, taking walks, playing games, anything to just not think of him 24/7. Ugh breaking up is miserable!

[Nicoleiia]

It will become easier as the MONTHS go on, so become more busy and stay NC. That is your best weapon for healing.

[happy stillmore]

I am in the same boat. I want him back but at the same time, I know it is the best for me. I think you and I both are missing having that someone there. I feel so lonely. You should try to hang out with friends. I'm working on that myself. Try to keep yourself busy. (Lame I know) take this time to do things you wouldn't have been able to do if he was in your life. love yourself, gf.

[eachcomingnight]

Hi,

I'm nearly three months post-breakup and I still think about him all the time - but the difference is, it doesn't hurt. It just pops into my mind, "We are not together anymore," but there is no negative feeling associated with it the way that there was the first few weeks post-breakup.

 

I'm sure eventually even the thoughts will pass as our brains will get tired of thinking about the same person for no reason. However, I can assure you that these thoughts will, in time, not hurt you the way that they do now, unless you do something to prolong the recovery (i.e. keep in touch with him).

 

Best of luck.

[SimonSerenade]

It's been a month for me and at first it was really hard, I didn't want to speak to her at all, I just wanted my stuff back, I've given up on ever getting it back now and I'm just focusing on moving on, I won't go into detail about my ex, lets just say she's said and done some hurtful things since she left, you wouldn't think so but it's made it easier, right now your in need of validation and meaning and since this man abused you in one way or another, he holds the key, one day soon you'll realise that you don't need that after all, at least not from him, build yourself from the ground up and the foundations of self respect and pride will soon follow, it does get better and it will get better for you, so long as you have no contact with this man, you'll be just fine my dear.