wmrjw82 Posted June 29, 2013 Posted June 29, 2013 I've always heard this and wondered others thoughts on it. Guys tend to dump and then change their minds. Although, I've had women dump me and then i've taken them back before when they've missed me....but i've also had some that have ended it and never heard from them again. I was recently dumped, but often wonder if she'll ever come back. Thoughts? 1
Ms.Logic Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 I was with a guy who kept ending it...and I kept taking him back. I frequently told him not to call my bluff. 2 months ago he said we should see other people. I looked at him, smiled and agreed. Have gone NC since and even forgot his number. He's called, texted and even his mom called. I'm talking to her tomorrow. After 3 weeks of them trying to make contact, I just decided that I love and respect his mother enough to speak to her. I have no hard feelings towards him. I simply checked out. It should read...when a woman checks out....its permanent.
hinatticus Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 (edited) It depends on the people involved and the situation. My ex ended it and she came back. It took her 14 months but she came back. She even told me we were done for good. Anything is possible I guess. To the above poster... My ex checked out a year before she ended it with me. Like I said, anything is possible. Edited June 30, 2013 by hinatticus
travelonic Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 I've always heard this and wondered others thoughts on it. It is an absolute statement, therefore it is false when applied to every situation when even one scenario in direct contradiction exists - and from reading here, the situations exist [regardless of how rare or not they may be] It really does depend on the situations - the relationship, people involved, the breakup/why, time apart afterwards, changes in thoe people, etc - a lot of variables, IMO of course. 1
aloneinaz Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 I don't agree with the statement as an overall summary. My ex broke up with me 2-3 times over several months. She was usually wrong as to why we broke up but each time after a few weeks, I approached her and we got back together. We broke up again 4 weeks ago when I told her I was tired of her continual crappy tone and mood towards me and others when she was stressed or annoyed. She broke up w/me again. She can F-off. She'll NEVER hear from me again. Sometimes it a good thing when you don't hear from you ex again.. 1
JustAReformedGirl Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 I've always heard this and wondered others thoughts on it. Guys tend to dump and then change their minds. Although, I've had women dump me and then i've taken them back before when they've missed me....but i've also had some that have ended it and never heard from them again. I was recently dumped, but often wonder if she'll ever come back. Thoughts? I'd say you answered your own question. If you've had women change their minds, then I'd say it's not gender specific. It depends on the people involved, and the relationship between them. Even with the same woman, you won't get the same results twice. It depends on the state of the relationship, whether she feels she wants to move on, or give it another try. This is also true of men. Like I said, not gender specific.
crederer Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 Way too generalized. I had a girl "break up" with me several times to immediately regret it and beg for me back. After a few times I got fed up with the games and left. She still tries to get back with me to this day and that was several years ago that I left.
athousandquestions Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 I think anyone regardless of gender is capable of coming back. Some exgirlfriends come back, and some exboyfriends come back. And some drop off the face of the earth. We will never find the reason or relation between those who do, and those who don't. It's just one of those things
Ordinaryday Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 Men usually come back because they figure they can do better than her... Realise they can't so they want her back figuring she is 'good enough' If a woman comes back it is usually for a similar reason. She dumped him figuring she could do better and then she hooked up with some more guys.... Who turned out to be WORSE than him, so she comes crawling back figuring that is the best she can do. It very rarely happens though
travelonic Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 It very rarely happens though I dunno - I mean, I hear this a lot, but read a lot of stories of them at least trying to come back - here and elsewhere - enough to make me think though not the most common, it's not 'super duper hyper' rare depending on the circumstances... making me wonder if either the definition of rare thrown around here is off, or if there isn;t enough statistical data to judge how rare it really is, or if rare-ness depends on various factors relating to the people in question, or any combination of this.
tbf Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 From personal experiences, men come back at least once, if not more. This doesn't mean that women don't impulsively break up or use break up as a weapon, to get their men in line. I've observed much of this on LS, particularly with younger women. 1
BLo7687 Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 Men usually come back because they figure they can do better than her... Realise they can't so they want her back figuring she is 'good enough' If a woman comes back it is usually for a similar reason. She dumped him figuring she could do better and then she hooked up with some more guys.... Who turned out to be WORSE than him, so she comes crawling back figuring that is the best she can do. It very rarely happens though This was mostly the reason I dumped my ex the first time around and I came crawling back. But now the tables have turned...
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