frostythesnowman Posted June 29, 2013 Posted June 29, 2013 Hello everyone, Just wanted to vent some frustrations, I know my friends have gotten a little tired of listening to it. Sorry if I have been redundant with my threads and posts, but it's better than contacting my ex Just last night I was with some friends and somehow we starting talking about a guy who my ex so happened to have had sex with after our break up a while back when it was fresh. In my opinion he was a sleezy kid with no future, a couple years older than my ex. Listening to my friends talk about him, even without relating him to my ex got me pretty worked up, maybe cause I was drinking a little. Why does thinking about my ex screwing some messed up guy make me sad, and not make me want to move on even more and dislike her? In a couple days I'm gonna be going to the mountains with my family. This was a trip that my ex came on a couple summers ago, and I can honestly say they were the best and happiest few days of my life. Its gonna be pretty ****ty going without her even though I went last year too. It's not easy being places like that where you've made such good memories
Sneaky Posted June 29, 2013 Posted June 29, 2013 Don't feel guilty, like you said posting here to vent is better than contacting your ex. Hope your trip goes well. 1
yoghurtsandlimes Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 I hope you are able to go on the trip and use it as a thinking space and a way to build the future and focus on what you want, rather than thinking of the trip as a way to hold on to memories. This trip can help you figure out what you want/need, so you can have different memories when you return. 1
yourcomrade Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 See it as a perfect opportunity. I am really not saying let her go or forget her or move on, I don't know your story that much yet. It should be obvious in case you have to, otherwise, use this trip to try and play this game differently. Try changing your approach, attitude, see how you can set things right form here on.
SmithJ Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 I know how s**t it is, I really do but do you think that while she was having meaningless sex with some dog she was thinking of you? I really don't mean to sound harsh but that's the way I always think about it, why should you waste your time thinking about someone who is doing that to you? Even though you had brilliant memories there go and make new even better ones. It is sad but break ups happen because something is broken. Just try not to show her that you're bothered. Let her make her own mistakes and I bet that when she comes crawling back you won't even want her anymore. Just go and enjoy your holiday 1
Author frostythesnowman Posted June 30, 2013 Author Posted June 30, 2013 I hope you are able to go on the trip and use it as a thinking space and a way to build the future and focus on what you want, rather than thinking of the trip as a way to hold on to memories. This trip can help you figure out what you want/need, so you can have different memories when you return. Appreciate the response. You're right- I'll be much better off just creating new memories. Still, something as simple as sitting on a couch that I would lay down with her on makes it that much harder. I know how s**t it is, I really do but do you think that while she was having meaningless sex with some dog she was thinking of you? I really don't mean to sound harsh but that's the way I always think about it, why should you waste your time thinking about someone who is doing that to you? Even though you had brilliant memories there go and make new even better ones. It is sad but break ups happen because something is broken. Just try not to show her that you're bothered. Let her make her own mistakes and I bet that when she comes crawling back you won't even want her anymore. Just go and enjoy your holiday I doubt she was thinking of me while she was doing it, and I don't think she really cared. I'm guessing she has sex pretty often with her current guy, and there is no chance she thinks of me then. Sometimes its hard to look at it that way, and I tend to think of it as "why isn't that me/why can't that be me?" instead
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