LOSTnMT Posted June 29, 2013 Posted June 29, 2013 I havent dated in about a year and a half. There was one person I was interested in but that didnt work out. A couple days ago I met somebody that interests me but I still dont know if I am really ready to date anyone. I like this person, she seems like she has it together and isnt a 24/7 drama network. Personally I just dont feel right about going out with somebody if before we even go out I am questioning it. I feel like its dishonest. I really like the idea of having somebody in my life to spend time with and I want a great relationship like everyone else does. I just want it to be built on a solid foundation and not deception. Am I overthinking things (I do this a lot) or am I just being forthright?
soccerrprp Posted June 29, 2013 Posted June 29, 2013 You are being honest. You don't sound ready. The person you do date is likely going to be looking to have a LTR, a relationship. If you are not ready and/or have no intention of having a LTR right now, you should get out of the dating pool until you are. That's my opinion. People honestly and earnestly looking to have a relationship don't want to have their time wasted with someone who isn't, right? 3
paigej91 Posted June 29, 2013 Posted June 29, 2013 Dating is just that--going on dates. At lest for the first 3-4 dates. After that though, if you keep going on dates, you better be in it seriously.
JustAReformedGirl Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 I havent dated in about a year and a half. There was one person I was interested in but that didnt work out. A couple days ago I met somebody that interests me but I still dont know if I am really ready to date anyone. I like this person, she seems like she has it together and isnt a 24/7 drama network. Personally I just dont feel right about going out with somebody if before we even go out I am questioning it. I feel like its dishonest. I really like the idea of having somebody in my life to spend time with and I want a great relationship like everyone else does. I just want it to be built on a solid foundation and not deception. Am I overthinking things (I do this a lot) or am I just being forthright? I'd say a little bit from column A, and a little bit from column B. Don't worry though; I'm a notorious over-thinker, as well. It's mind-numbingly irritating, yes? Anyway, it sounds like you need to take time to assess what you're feeling. If you have reservations about dating this girl right away, then take it slow. There's no rush; you may find your uncertain feelings will dissipate, turning into ones of certainty. Of course, there may be bouts of insecurity along the way, but sometimes, you just need to jump in, feet first. But, give yourself time, before making a decision. If need be, be honest with this girl, so she understands.
Author LOSTnMT Posted July 1, 2013 Author Posted July 1, 2013 Thanks Rebel, you are pretty close to how I feel. I am choosing to not ask this woman out, I am just going to be alone for another 3-5 years and then deal with things as they come. I am just going to focus on my son and getting him done with highschool and into college.
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