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Tempted to break NC

Giha

By Giha
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Giha Established Member

Giha

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For the first time in these two months I'm wondering if going NC was really the right choice. For the first time I feel tempted to break NC.

 

I keep thinking how if I reached out she'd see how much progress I've been making and maybe she'd have second thoughts. And she was such a big part of my life, it's just weird not to share everything with her anymore.

 

But truth is she 99% won't give a damn, and she's probably with a new fella. And to be honest I'm scared ****less of how she'd respond to me making contact.

 

Just gotta suck it up, I guess. I probably won't break NC because when I think about it rationally, there is no point in doing that. She won't take me back and I'm not even sure I'd take her back.

So forward it still is...

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Giha,

 

You and I are in the same boat. Thank you for your post. Like you, I am coming up on two months here in several days.

 

We miss them, don't we? It is healthy to miss them; I believe it is a reminder that we have a soul.

 

Also, It is neat that by the end of your post, you answered your own question and know what to do. You (and I) are moving forward. That is neat as well.

 

OCS

athousandquestions Established Member

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Good on you for knowing you just have to suck it up :) I know it sucks. I feel very similarly to you - like you want to show them how great you're doing on your own. Look at me, I'm so strong without you, etc. etc. But deep down we know the fact that we feel the need to show them this is proof we are still weak, and still care about what they think.

 

One of the worst things about breaking up is losing the person who you used to share everything with. But that's also one of the best parts. Recently I've learned, and I hope you will learn this/have learned this as well, that being happy while your single is one of the most PURE feelings. Don't get me wrong, I loved my ex and I was gloriously happy in my relationship. But being happy when your single is a happiness YOU feel by yourself. YOU achieved that happiness and you don't have to share it with anyone :) It's great!

 

You can do this! Even if you have rough days. Don't break NC, stay strong. What will be, will be :)

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