I saw my ex in my dream lastnight, am I too weak?

[SweetiePie12]

I don't know if you are doing this on purpose but you are giving the exact opposite advices people give here and I kind of find it funny

 

LOL! Very funny!

 

I can't be friends with my ex. How can I? I still have feelings and one day she will find a guy and stop talking to me?

 

Or she may be so impressed by who you are, the romance may return. After all, friendship IS the foundation of true love.

[SweetiePie12]

It's been proven that men fall in love much, MUCH faster than women do.

 

Say what?!?! Do elaborate!

[Sneaky]

Okay I don't know much but I feel the need to comment since there seems to be a lot of advice here aimed to get your hopes up so I'll just give my opinion.

 

First, you should absolutely not contact her. Your dream was not a telepathic message, because there's no such thing. If she wanted to talk to you, you'd know because she would contact you by phone or something, not with mind powers.

 

Second, do not approach her to be friends. Clearly you're not ready for a friendship with her. If she got together with someone else while you were stuck at the sidelines it would hurt worse than what you are feeling right now.

 

Thirdly, there could be any number of reasons why she viewed your LinkedIn profile, maybe she miss clicked. You are looking way too much into this. Again if she wanted to reach out, she’d pick up a phone not visit a social media page in the hopes that you’d notice. That’s insane.

 

Cut her out of your life and keep busy. Focus on other stuff so your mind doesn't wander to her. Watch tv-shows, read, workout etc. Focus on yourself. Also personally I think the swing class is a bad idea if there’s even a remote chance that you’ll run into her. You need to go totally cold turkey and take it day by day. Some will suck and the dreams are horrible but they happen and they happen more if you don’t try and let her go from your life completely.

[youcanever]

Okay I don't know much but I feel the need to comment since there seems to be a lot of advice here aimed to get your hopes up so I'll just give my opinion.

 

First, you should absolutely not contact her. Your dream was not a telepathic message, because there's no such thing. If she wanted to talk to you, you'd know because she would contact you by phone or something, not with mind powers.

 

Second, do not approach her to be friends. Clearly you're not ready for a friendship with her. If she got together with someone else while you were stuck at the sidelines it would hurt worse than what you are feeling right now.

 

Thirdly, there could be any number of reasons why she viewed your LinkedIn profile, maybe she miss clicked. You are looking way too much into this. Again if she wanted to reach out, she’d pick up a phone not visit a social media page in the hopes that you’d notice. That’s insane.

 

Cut her out of your life and keep busy. Focus on other stuff so your mind doesn't wander to her. Watch tv-shows, read, workout etc. Focus on yourself. Also personally I think the swing class is a bad idea if there’s even a remote chance that you’ll run into her. You need to go totally cold turkey and take it day by day. Some will suck and the dreams are horrible but they happen and they happen more if you don’t try and let her go from your life completely.

 

 

I agree with that you wrote but this swing class I really wanted to take.

 

Yes she told me about this class but I asked teacher that there is not her name on the list of class. I don't know if she sign up in future but she is not in it right now.

 

I don't want to blow oppurtunity.

 

Also when we talked last week, she asked if I joined and I said no. Now I want to go.

[SweetiePie12]

Okay I don't know much but I feel the need to comment since there seems to be a lot of advice here aimed to get your hopes up so I'll just give my opinion.

 

First, you should absolutely not contact her. Your dream was not a telepathic message, because there's no such thing. If she wanted to talk to you, you'd know because she would contact you by phone or something, not with mind powers.

 

Second, do not approach her to be friends. Clearly you're not ready for a friendship with her. If she got together with someone else while you were stuck at the sidelines it would hurt worse than what you are feeling right now.

 

Thirdly, there could be any number of reasons why she viewed your LinkedIn profile, maybe she miss clicked. You are looking way too much into this. Again if she wanted to reach out, she’d pick up a phone not visit a social media page in the hopes that you’d notice. That’s insane.

 

No, it isn't. My counterpoints:

 

People who are separated do visit one another's social media pages.

 

Nothing wrong with a little analysis.

 

Pretty hard to click the wrong name on LinkedIn (read: impossible).

 

She already said she sees him as a friend and treats him thusly by calling.

 

Telepathy is a possibility and sometimes there are happy endings.

 

At the end of the day, let go, let God.

[youcanever]

No, it isn't. My counterpoints:

 

People who are separated do visit one another's social media pages.

 

Nothing wrong with a little analysis.

 

Pretty hard to click the wrong name on LinkedIn (read: impossible).

 

She already said she sees him as a friend and treats him thusly by calling.

 

Telepathy is a possibility and sometimes there are happy endings.

 

At the end of the day, let go, let God.

 

Ehm..

 

About Linkedin. I agree with you there. She didn't visit my profile accidentaly.

 

I haven't visited Linkedin for months and a month ago i got a new job so I thought lets upgrade infos at my profile and I saw that she visited my profile 3-4 days ago.

 

Then I upgraded my information about work.

 

Then I visited hers.

 

Then today I saw she visited again.

 

So it is not an accident. She was a very very compatitive girl. She never wanted me to get my job. She wanted me to stay where I was. I think she is just curious about what is happening in my life.

[SweetiePie12]

She was a very very compatitive girl. She never wanted me to get my job. She wanted me to stay where I was. I think she is just curious about what is happening in my life.

 

Hm, I think you're better off with someone else. Someone who supports you in your goals and cheers you on, and someone who yearns for your support as well.

[Sneaky]

I said it could be any numbers of reasons. The miss click was just a single example. Regardless, her reasons don't matter it was just a click, don't read too much into it.

[youcanever]

Hm, I think you're better off with someone else. Someone who supports you in your goals and cheers you on, and someone who yearns for your support as well.

 

Yes, it hurts that the loved one doesn't support you.

 

Before I got the job I was the one running after her but she said meeting once a week is enough for her. But it was not for me.

 

And then I got the job, she made jokes like "quit your job".. wtf? It is not even funny. And she started to say it is not working out because she wants to meet more than once a week and I work hard. Seriously, WTF??? What changed?

 

Also it was a nice coincidence that I was talking with her on the phone, and while ı was talking the phone rang and it was the company calling me. I told her I need to hung up and take the call. I took the call and company told me I got the job.

 

Then I called her again and told her the great news. And it was so so sooo obvious that she was faking her feelings like "I'm so happy for you" bla bla bla.

 

It is just weird.

 

She works as a sales consultant and she is just 19 and she is doing just fine.

 

And I'm 23, I'm an engineer.

 

In 4 years she will be successful too. She is smart girl.

 

What is with that competition with me?

 

I don't get it.

[youcanever]

I said it could be any numbers of reasons. The miss click was just a single example. Regardless, her reasons don't matter it was just a click, don't read too much into it.

 

Yes man, ofcourse. She just clicked to see my position at the company maybe.

 

I'm not reading much. It just seem weird because she is changed. She was very proud girl, and ı would never guess she would call me after break up or check my linkedin or unblock me on facebook and whatsapp. Which she did all of them !

 

That just confuses me.

 

I hope she be happy but I now realise that I was kind of sad and like a slave when I was with her.

 

She always takes takes takes and gives so so little. And it takes my energy and self respect.

 

I don't want to get back that times.

 

I know it is hard times now but I hope these will pass.

[SweetiePie12]

Yes, it hurts that the loved one doesn't support you.

 

For some, it's a deal breaker.

 

And then I got the job, she made jokes like "quit your job".. wtf?

 

Oh, there's a song by The O'Jays, I think, called "Backstabbers." They smile in your face... NOT COOL. SO not funny.

 

It is not even funny. And she started to say it is not working out because she wants to meet more than once a week and I work hard. Seriously, WTF??? What changed?

 

Sail on...

 

Also it was a nice coincidence that I was talking with her on the phone, and while ı was talking the phone rang and it was the company calling me. I told her I need to hung up and take the call. I took the call and company told me I got the job.

 

Then I called her again and told her the great news. And it was so so sooo obvious that she was faking her feelings like "I'm so happy for you" bla bla bla.

 

It is just weird.

 

Sounds boring, too. You can do better. Do you!

[youcanever]

For some, it's a deal breaker.

 

 

 

Oh, there's a song by The O'Jays, I think, called "Backstabbers." They smile in your face... NOT COOL. SO not funny.

 

 

 

Sail on...

 

 

 

Sounds boring, too. You can do better. Do you!

 

Every new gf is better than the ex one.

 

But I don't know if I can top this one. She was dull emotionally but she was social, cute, funny.

[SweetiePie12]

 

But I don't know if I can top this one. She was dull emotionally but she was social, cute, funny.

 

Meh. Stay active physically. Skip the swing dancing. Get out in nature. You can do better. Emotionally dull should be a deal breaker. Good luck!

[travelonic]

Pretty hard to click the wrong name on LinkedIn (read: impossible).

 

Tell that to dyslexic people, people with adult strabismus, or people who simply use a laptop with a mouse, and have their arm brush against the trackpad.

 

Nothing is impossible when it comes to stupid things like that. heheh.

[crederer]

Man, I feel you.

 

I broke with my ex almost 4 months ago now and I probably have dreams about her once a week. i don't cry about it but it bums me out hardcore.