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Well I was at potbellys grabbing a bite/work related stuff .I saw a pretty young girl in line and we made eye contact .Next thing I know I went back to doing work when I heard a voice

 

Her -I noticed you seem kinda busy but I'd like chat later Hbu

Me-just a deadline heh ya I'd like that lets exchange numbers

 

I won't lie I was life confused cause that's def a first a girl coming up to me heck I thought maybe she had gotten me mixed up with a friend or somtin lol.So I finally got the guts and texted and convo seemed to be going good from what I can tell .She then asked hey you like sushi ?I replied ya its one of my favs .She said mine to we should go get some

 

At that point I called cause I may still be new to the dating world but not gonna let her plan a date so I said lets do sushi next week and she agreed.I said well gotta go text me later which she did.Now from now till Monday/Tuesday should I limit the texting /call and how do I act on the date I won't lie I'm nervous

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First of all, that's pimp.

 

Second -- some of these rules go out the window when there is heavy attraction.

 

I don't like girls who over stay their welcome and send text after text, but if it was Jessica Alba, I'd welcome it, ya know? All about perspective.

 

So maybe those little rules like "don't text a few days before a date" or whatever would serve you well with a different type of woman, but from what you say, she seems like the aggressor, which is good, because you know where her interest level lies.

 

I'm sure she would welcome a few texts between now and when you're scheduled to meet. As long as you have something worth texting. Don't fall into a dead end convo.

 

I'm pretty random by nature, so I never send a "hey whatsup?" text -- I always send random, zany, wacky texts to open up. This gets them laughing and lets them feel more comfortable with me. When you fall into just texting to set up dates and stuff, you're not sure what's okay to text her and what's not. So I show my silly side early on.

 

As far as the date is concerned, just be cool. I know it's easier said than done, but don't over think it. She approached you, you're playing with house money. You don't have to go over board trying to impress her or try too hard. She already likes you.

 

Good luck! :)

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First of all, that's pimp.

 

Second -- some of these rules go out the window when there is heavy attraction.

 

I don't like girls who over stay their welcome and send text after text, but if it was Jessica Alba, I'd welcome it, ya know? All about perspective.

 

So maybe those little rules like "don't text a few days before a date" or whatever would serve you well with a different type of woman, but from what you say, she seems like the aggressor, which is good, because you know where her interest level lies.

 

I'm sure she would welcome a few texts between now and when you're scheduled to meet. As long as you have something worth texting. Don't fall into a dead end convo.

 

I'm pretty random by nature, so I never send a "hey whatsup?" text -- I always send random, zany, wacky texts to open up. This gets them laughing and lets them feel more comfortable with me. When you fall into just texting to set up dates and stuff, you're not sure what's okay to text her and what's not. So I show my silly side early on.

 

As far as the date is concerned, just be cool. I know it's easier said than done, but don't over think it. She approached you, you're playing with house money. You don't have to go over board trying to impress her or try too hard. She already likes you.

 

Good luck! :)

 

Jesus, you really are that good Castle :)

 

Very astute.

 

Must be the Scorpio in ya, hehe.

 

Good post and spot on when it comes to the ladies.

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Well that's the thing if a girl is a aggressor isn't she gonna try control the game or that's where I come in keeping it level .Ill agree the text seemed good but I could see it hitting the deadzone .Ph convo went alot more smoother and I had her laughing quiet a bite.Well will see won't know unless you try

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Well that's the thing if a girl is a aggressor isn't she gonna try control the game or that's where I come in keeping it level .Ill agree the text seemed good but I could see it hitting the deadzone .Ph convo went alot more smoother and I had her laughing quiet a bite.Well will see won't know unless you try

 

No, I am the aggressor most of the time (female) and I don't want to control it, I just want to get it started.

 

I'm very picky but when a man tickles my fancy, I have no problem showing initiative :)

 

Play it cool, make her laugh, enjoy yourself and your time with her. Don't be self-conscious too much (a little is ok though).

 

She clearly sees something she likes and isn't afraid to go for it. Strong lady with self-esteem. Not a bad deal at all :)

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Jesus, you really are that good Castle :)

 

Very astute.

 

Must be the Scorpio in ya, hehe.

 

Good post and spot on when it comes to the ladies.

 

Ha. You keep buttering my biscuit you're gonna have to eat it eventually :p

 

The scorpio is strong with this one; yes :)

 

Well that's the thing if a girl is a aggressor isn't she gonna try control the game or that's where I come in keeping it level .Ill agree the text seemed good but I could see it hitting the deadzone .Ph convo went alot more smoother and I had her laughing quiet a bite.Well will see won't know unless you try

 

In my experience with aggressors -- they do it to give you the push you need to make moves. For example, she gave you the idea of sushi, but still left it to you to set the date and ask her out officially. Her aggressiveness is the right amount. The kind of girl that lets you know she's interested, but still wants you to make moves in the end. That's your job. Take her cues and escalate.

 

She said "do you like sushi?" -- you set up a sushi date. Escalation.

 

As far as the texts, what really started getting me results is to not be so scared of screwing up. Not try to spend hours crafting the perfect text.

 

I released my inner goofball. I always think of random things during the day so I would just text them one of my silly random ideas and see their reaction. It's always been positive.

 

I also like to drop an innuendo when I can just to make sure she doesn't see me as her text buddy. If I'm comfortable with her I will really push the limit to see where I can go. I'll say "So, to my knowledge, there are only two things capable of giving women an earth shattering orgasm. The ice cream place by me is one of them, wanna go?" She'll respond with "Haha sure! But what is the other thing?" And I'll say "You're talking to him." Or some other corny, silly, cheesy line. Believe it or not some girls like cheese.

 

Over time you will learn what's acceptable to say to her specifically, what kind of stuff she finds funny, etc.

 

The key is to be natural though. If you're not random and silly I wouldn't try to force it. Use your personality strengths as your key. Being random and having a mind that thought up silly stuff was virtually useless until I applied it to my dating life.

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Here's one that I would use randomly throughout the day -- again, no "hello", no "whatsup?" -- I just go straight into material typically.

 

"So I'm thinking, it would suck to have a department store in a nudist colony but at least you know nobody is shoplifting."

 

Or some other weird wtf kind of text. They'll crack up and it'll keep them engaged. Then when the moment is organic, I'll ask her out on a date or something.

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Here's one that I would use randomly throughout the day -- again, no "hello", no "whatsup?" -- I just go straight into material typically.

 

"So I'm thinking, it would suck to have a department store in a nudist colony but at least you know nobody is shoplifting."

 

Or some other weird wtf kind of text. They'll crack up and it'll keep them engaged. Then when the moment is organic, I'll ask her out on a date or something.

 

Great stuff man. Any other gems for us guys to poach? ;)

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Castle just knows what to do/and say ha that's some really good advice .Reason I perfered to call her though you can be alot more funnier or as you say cheesy.In a text you could do the sale but lol a few times for all I know just may be a convo filler .Well like I said def a diffferent senerio so will see what happens :)

 

Thanks castle and sweetheart

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