J.DAE23 Posted June 29, 2013 Share Posted June 29, 2013 I would like people's opinion on this. I had a bad break-up 2 months ago. After she said she wanted me out her life, I went NC a month ago. At this point she had already blocked my calls. During this whole point of NC, I felt better but was still in pain. A LOT of the things she said kept replaying in my head but I tried to stay positive. This morning I couldn't take it. I had a weak moment and called her. I was expecting it to go straight to voice mail but instead it kept ringing until I got her voicemail. Then she called back on her home phone but I didn't pick up. That was this morning, then tonight I sent out a text saying Hey. I don't plan to reach out again. Im just gonna try n keep doing NC. But I would like to know ...what does it mean that she now has my number unblocked and called me back? Any opinions? I still love her but don't want a relationship with her or with anyone. I realized in our relationship there is a LOT I need to work on as a person especially before I get with anyone. This is what I told myself and I think this has helped me keep NC for that first month but for some reason, today I just had to call her. I appreciate any responses! Link to post Share on other sites
Harperpro Posted June 29, 2013 Share Posted June 29, 2013 Her unblocking your number meant that she was no longer actively hostile towards you. Calling her and not talking to her, refusing to talk to her when she called you then sending her a text message that you don't want to talk to her is mixed signals and honestly makes you look flakey. You will probably get another chance to talk to her, next time make it count. Link to post Share on other sites
SharkTooth Posted June 29, 2013 Share Posted June 29, 2013 Well some carriers have a time limit on blocking numbers. I believe Verizon is 60 days and it automatically unblocks number. You have to remember to re-block the number when time expires. Sorry, but sometimes the answers can be very simply Link to post Share on other sites
soccerrprp Posted June 29, 2013 Share Posted June 29, 2013 I would like people's opinion on this. I had a bad break-up 2 months ago. After she said she wanted me out her life, I went NC a month ago. At this point she had already blocked my calls. During this whole point of NC, I felt better but was still in pain. A LOT of the things she said kept replaying in my head but I tried to stay positive. This morning I couldn't take it. I had a weak moment and called her. I was expecting it to go straight to voice mail but instead it kept ringing until I got her voicemail. Then she called back on her home phone but I didn't pick up. That was this morning, then tonight I sent out a text saying Hey. I don't plan to reach out again. Im just gonna try n keep doing NC. But I would like to know ...what does it mean that she now has my number unblocked and called me back? Any opinions? I still love her but don't want a relationship with her or with anyone. I realized in our relationship there is a LOT I need to work on as a person especially before I get with anyone. This is what I told myself and I think this has helped me keep NC for that first month but for some reason, today I just had to call her. I appreciate any responses! Well, the truth of the matter is that you broke NC. So, essentially, you are starting over. Why didn't you pick up when she called? It's clear that you wanted to contact her (and did...). Link to post Share on other sites
Author J.DAE23 Posted June 29, 2013 Author Share Posted June 29, 2013 Thanks for the responses. Why didn't I pick up? I felt like I was having a weak moment. If we ever spoke again I wanted it to be because she contacted me but yesterday I couldn't help it. So for my call to go through and for her actually call me back through me off guard. Honstly, when she called all I could think was "She's going to yell at me". It's hard for me to admit but...I was scared to pick up. Even though I am "starting over" I guess I don't feel as bad because I did make it this far and compared to how I was a month or 2 ago, I made a lot of progress. But here I go continuing with NC! Link to post Share on other sites
Mrlonelyone Posted June 29, 2013 Share Posted June 29, 2013 Thanks for the responses. Why didn't I pick up? I felt like I was having a weak moment. If we ever spoke again I wanted it to be because she contacted me but yesterday I couldn't help it. So for my call to go through and for her actually call me back through me off guard. Honstly, when she called all I could think was "She's going to yell at me". It's hard for me to admit but...I was scared to pick up. Even though I am "starting over" I guess I don't feel as bad because I did make it this far and compared to how I was a month or 2 ago, I made a lot of progress. But here I go continuing with NC! Here's the thing.... what do you really want? Is this NC because you want to move on or is it part of some power/turf struggle? Link to post Share on other sites
Author J.DAE23 Posted June 29, 2013 Author Share Posted June 29, 2013 For now, I want to move on. It's just hard. It started out NC because she didn't want anything to do with me and it's (attempted) NC because I want to move on. I tell myself I shouldn't care but I'm having a hard time moving on when the words "I'm disgusted I was with you" keep replaying in my head. Link to post Share on other sites
Mrlonelyone Posted June 30, 2013 Share Posted June 30, 2013 For now, I want to move on. It's just hard. It started out NC because she didn't want anything to do with me and it's (attempted) NC because I want to move on. I tell myself I shouldn't care but I'm having a hard time moving on when the words "I'm disgusted I was with you" keep replaying in my head. Wow that's tough? She's "disgusted" that she was with you at all. Then she calls back? That sounds like a woman who was really tripping. If you want to move on stay NC. Just keep NC block her on all forms of communication, block and cut off all her friends and family. Link to post Share on other sites
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