jabbzy64 Posted June 29, 2013 Posted June 29, 2013 Hey Guys Not sure if you remember me? I was the guy that posted about having what I believed to be a BPD female.. oh let's just emotionally unstable person? I just wanted to update that it has been 1.5 month since the break up.. and I just wanna say.. for all those people hurting right now. Time does indeed heal all wounds... some people have quicker healing rates than others. My big change came when I finally accepted that there was no future with this female and that she was bad for my life. I no longer pine for her... I'm actually getting attracted to other girls again Heartbreak is a horrible thing... but at the end of it all... we will all become wiser and stronger! sending out love to the heartbroken. hang in there! 1
SimonSerenade Posted June 29, 2013 Posted June 29, 2013 Keep up the progress man, I'm getting to that stage myself and it's been a month since it ended, my ex had a lot of narcissistic traits and just like my dad, impossible to maintain a relationship with, one day I'm idealised and a wonderful person to be around, the next I'm useless and serve no purpose in their life, good riddance to the both of them, life's too short to be treated like that. I've recently started talking to women again, not ready for dates or anything yet but just talking to new people helps. 1
Author jabbzy64 Posted June 29, 2013 Author Posted June 29, 2013 Yeah... I'd rather stay in the devalued stage for good now.. being recycled between the two is too draining!! I'm not ready to date. either.. but that will also come when the time is right
SimonSerenade Posted June 29, 2013 Posted June 29, 2013 I hated that, as much it hurts to wake up knowing I'm without her, I've started awakening to a relief, it's nice waking up with no worries if I'm going to be around or not at the end of the day, discard and devalue, its rarely personal, right now I'm not even on the same plane of existence in her mind and honestly, that's probably for the best. I'm still finding it hard to talk to new women without thinking "it's not her" but you push through and eventually prevail, I don't think I could handle another her. 1
Author jabbzy64 Posted June 29, 2013 Author Posted June 29, 2013 I hated that, as much it hurts to wake up knowing I'm without her, I've started awakening to a relief, it's nice waking up with no worries if I'm going to be around or not at the end of the day, discard and devalue, its rarely personal, right now I'm not even on the same plane of existence in her mind and honestly, that's probably for the best. I'm still finding it hard to talk to new women without thinking "it's not her" but you push through and eventually prevail, I don't think I could handle another her. Amen to that! 1
sprucegoose Posted June 29, 2013 Posted June 29, 2013 I understand what you are going through. It took me a little longer than you, but now, every time I think about my ex, I say to myself "it's over, let it go, move on". Acceptance is the hardest part though....
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