bamaguy20 Posted October 17, 2004 Posted October 17, 2004 Been broken up with my girlfriend of 2 years, whom I thought I was going to marry, for 8 months..broke up on valentines day.......but like i said..its been 8 m onths and im still not completly over her, as i still think about her almost everday..not for extended periods of time. just briefly wonder what shes doing, or if shes with another guy...gives me a small knot in my stomach, but nothing major like it used to be...ive been pretty much happy, have met and hooked up with girls since her, so im on the right track i believe...but the problem is, will this feeling/wonering be here forever..she was my first love, as i was hers, but i thought it would be gone by now. Even at night, I find myself dreaming about her all night long...sometimes its us getting back together, sometimes its finding out shes with another guy, but always something...this happens to me quite a bit..is this normal??? And when/what will it take for these feelings to subside completly..i feel like i have "plateaud" in the sense things were getting better for me emotionally, and now the dont seem to be going anywhere..better or worse....thanks in advance.
PhotoGuy Posted October 17, 2004 Posted October 17, 2004 The best advice I can give you is the realization that I had last night while lying in bed. Take a deeeeeep breath, look away from the computer and tell yourself to stop dwelling on the past and focus your energyon the future. The future is bright and beautiful, it always will be. The past is the past and you CANNOT change it. Dwelling on it does not help you to cope with it. I wish you luck and hope you find the happiness that you deserve.
Author bamaguy20 Posted October 18, 2004 Author Posted October 18, 2004 see....my situation was rough....i still had to see her everday flirting with other guys, she never gave me a firm reason why it was over , and to a certain extent kept me on a string getting back together/not back together....even now she tries to still make me jealous and keep me guessing if well ever get back still....it was a very unhealthy relationship after we broke up, which made my grieving period last even longer i have a feeling........whats your story with your ex???? id say, do the no contact thing IMMEADIATLY...i didnt do that, but as soon as i did, i felt worlds better.....now that i think about it, if theres one thing you can do foryourself..PLEASE do that..i didnt believe it at first and look where it put me, start right away....my ex started talking to me telling me she missed me this summer after i completly cut off contact...it makes girls think their not the only one you can get...
the_opposite_sex Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 no, i've decided not to talk to him unless he contacts me. I can't be friends w/ him yet. It's too rough. The hardest part about this is picturing him w/ another girl, if and when he gets one. He's called it off a time or 2 before *long story*, and i just completely cut him off til he was ready to talk. Before i knew it, 2 days later, he was callin me sayin he's missing me and he loves me, blah blah blah. But this time he's saying is different. I have a thread in this forum, although i forget what i said. I just posted it thought, so it should still be on the first page of this forum.
Author bamaguy20 Posted October 18, 2004 Author Posted October 18, 2004 I hear ya......thats what happend to me, we broke up for a few days at a time, and would always get back together and then finally, that was "it".....dont let yourself worry about him with another girl...i sitll think about my ex with another guy and it drives me crazy........you are a good looking girl, judging by your avatar, dont let this stop you...this is what i could have used after i got dumped, someone saying this, but all i heard was her and her bull**** stringing me along....my screen name is paley001 if you ever want to talk with someone about this some more.
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