Delilah1623 Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 So my bf of almost 3 months always "likes" pictures if this one girl on Facebook. But only the ones of her all made up and today one if her in a bikini. I feel kind of disrespected because all 300+ of his friends will see this. Am I nuts or do I have a valid reason to feel this way?
Treasa Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 I doubt any of his 300 FB "friends" will even notice or care. However, yeah, I'd feel disrespected in this case. I also wouldn't be dating him if this were the case. But then, I have ridiculously high standards. 2
Author Delilah1623 Posted June 28, 2013 Author Posted June 28, 2013 Do I let him know this bothers me?
pteromom Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 Who is this girl? Is she a friend of his/yours or just a random FB-only friend? Are you sure he isn't liking a bunch of other friends' photos as well, but you only notice him liking hers because you are watching for it? All in all, I really don't think liking someone's photos is a big deal.
Author Delilah1623 Posted June 28, 2013 Author Posted June 28, 2013 No idea who she is. She lives in a city he lived in for a while. These are the only ones that pop up on my newsfeed saying he " liked" with the exception of some random funny things once in a while. I wouldn't like pictures of half naked guy friends of mine because I feel it's not appropriate while I'm in a relationship.
Author Delilah1623 Posted June 28, 2013 Author Posted June 28, 2013 Anyone? Should I bring this up? We're supposed to spend the weekend together but part of me wants to call the whole thing off. Seems like there's always crap from random girls popping up.
JBlackstone Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 I would bring it up, but not in a confronting or accusatory manner. Maybe just mention that you noticed he likes her pictures often and you were wondering who she is. Keep in mind, he probably doesn't think it's as big a deal as you do or he doesn't know that it's showing up in your feed. My cousin's husband constantly likes photos of girl's bums and girls in bikinis. This would drive me insane but it doesn't seem to bother her. I also have major insecurities in relationships. So maybe take a minute and think about why it's bothering you, do you think he's straying, or is it your insecurities? Even if he stops liking the photos, he probably won't stop looking. Is that something you would be ok with?
Author Delilah1623 Posted June 28, 2013 Author Posted June 28, 2013 I don't care if he looks. I know he will find other women attractive. It's the fact that its showing up in my newsfeed every week or so as well as the newsfeed of 300+ people that he is also friends with. I am kind if insecure but this is more of a respect thing. I think I look much better than her in a bikini and I know he's with me. We all look. It's the making it public knowledge that's getting to me.
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