nicolewest Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 I'll give you a little background info first. Was in a relationship for about 2 years, a year of it was long distance. Broke up with him a few months ago [over the phone] while he was overseas. We didn't speak much if at all after that until he called saying he was coming back. I was out of town during the time but saw him yesterday and gave him back some personal items I had of his. I think my problem was I stayed there too long. The first hour I was distant, during dinner i was friendly but post dinner I was way too friendly. Luckily I had an event to attend that evening. now i KNOW the mature option for dealing with my ex would be to have a sitdown conversation in public reiterating that the relationship is over and apologizing for yesterdays foreplay but are there any other mature options. He wants to come over, spend the night, says he is disciplined and will decline. I don't think I can invite him over without something happening. So far today he has called about 4 times but I was busy working and now I have no idea what to say. He is treating this as if we are back together or that we will be and I can't.
BC1980 Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 You have to immediately cut contact with him. I wouldn't even do it in person because that invites all kinds of drama. He will get upset, maybe cry, and possibly convince you to have sex at the worst. I think I would give the courtesy of a call since it has been 2 years. Say that it's for his own good to cut contact, so he can come to terms with it, whiçh is true. It's far kinder to cut him off now. 1
athousandquestions Posted June 29, 2013 Posted June 29, 2013 You need to call/text him and say "I don't think we should be in contact anymore. I'm sorry, but please do not contact me unless it's an emergency. Thanks." Then turn your phone off for the next few hours and go out (gym, read, go to the mall, something) so that if he blows it up you will not be able to respond, because he may try to say things to piss you off/hurt you so that you do reply. Do. not. reply no matter what. Or if you do, use TaraMaiden's classic "Error : SMS not delivered to (insert your number here)" or something along those lines so he thinks you've blocked his number. Every time he texts you, send it again. it's cruel but you need to cut this guy loooooseee Why are you even considering spending the night with him? You broke up with him (and though I don't know much about your relationship) it doesn't seem like you want to reconcile and get back together. So why are you hanging out? Why are you talking? You guys are broken up. You have no place in eachothers lives anymore. Sad, but true. He is acting like this because he's hopeful you'll get back together. You need to respect this man and respect yourself and put an end to this NOW.
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