L.D.R Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 I really like this girl, and want to have a relationship with her, but she is so far away. I'm in Arkansas and she is in Minnesota. We are both religious people and see each other when we go to events organized by our church, which is only 1-3 times a year on average. I've only known her for about two years. We just got home from seeing each other at a 5 day long camp and I've never flirted so much with one girl before (which is awesome, and at the same time lame). We text each other for hours and things seem awesome, if she lived near me this would be when I ask her out.. So what do I do here? She has been the most forward person in whatever this is/n't right now. I want to continue getting closer to her, but the voice in the back of my head is telling me this is going to end badly. What do I do? I've never been so close to a girl before. I know I'll see her this December and we could go camping together with some friends next summer. We only see each other during December and in the summer.
CherryT Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 Firstly, don't get into a relationship because she is the first girl you've been "that close to". That's not a good enough reason. You have to ask yourself if you're willing to make the effort in making a long distance relationship work because it's not easy. My BF and I never wanted a "casual" relationship. We're at the age where we're both thinking about marriage seriously and that's the kind of relationship we wanted to spend our time with. It wasn't worth the energy to do a casual long distance relationship. We have been doing LD for over a year and will be closing the distance in 2014 - when we want to get married. No one can say whether or not you'll end up hurt... it's not exclusive to only LDR's. You can get hurt with any relationship you enter. You just have to make that decision for yourself... are you willing to put the effort and to see her more often? Are you willing to keep the communication going? Are you willing to be her support even though you're not with her physically?
justwhoiam Posted June 29, 2013 Posted June 29, 2013 1) How old are you both? 2) What did you mean by "She has been the most forward person in whatever this is/n't right now"? 3) You view flirting as a bad thing. I don't like flirting either for various reasons, but in your case, is it an opinion stemming from religious background? 4) How free can you be if you decided not to go against your faith principles? Would you both be allowed to drive for 6 hours each and meet half way? 5) Should she be your first love/crush, chances are it won't coincide with the person you'll spend your life with. If that falls into the "ending bad" category, then you're preventing yourself from making necessary experiences in life. And I'm not talking about sex, which could well remain out of the picture for you for some time, due to religious beliefs. As I don't know what your religion entails, only you know that.
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