isalara Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 Hi everyone, I am new to this site and wanted to find some support among people that are going thru the same. It has been almost 5 months since the breakup with my ex bf. We broke up because we both had a really toxic relationship. He was very controlling and emotionally abusive towards me and he was a huge manipulator. Somehow, he always turned our fights into the blame game and usually I ended up losing. We lived together and would break up often because of our fights and this last time 5 months ago it turned really ugly and we broke up for good. I moved in with my mom, we would call eachother and text eachother missing our relationship terribly. We had the BEST memories... we just somehow loved eachother so much and we would even finish eachothers sentences. The problem is we would constantly fight and it would turn into a nasty war of words. We have kept contact for these past 5 months every couple of days and we would see eachother but then something would happen or things just didnt feel right and I was back to square 1. This very last time that we saw eachother he did something VERY hurtful towards me. He took a sexual video behind my back and used it against me after I found out he was talking to his other ex gf (which we hated eachother) and he was messing with her behind my back and he took naked pics of her and text it to me. He then sent me clips of the video and called me nasty names. I just cant believe why he would do this? I did not do anything to him. Since then he text me once saying he missed me but not that he was sorry for what he did... then it was another war of words (texting) between eachother and then my last words were "I hope that every little bit of pain you caused me comes back to you" since then I blocked him number and have gone 1 full week with NC (the most its ever been in 5 months) My point is, I don't know why I cant get over him and why my mind is clouded with thoughts of him every single day. I miss him terribly... even though he was hurtful towards me.... I feel like why do two people that love eachother so much like how we did can ever get this bad towards eachother? I have tried everything... Books, talking to friends, hobbies, gym and nothing seems to get me out of this funk. What do you guys think? What should I do?
eddyctv Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 You can start by finding someone who isn't controlling and emotionally abusive!
Author isalara Posted June 28, 2013 Author Posted June 28, 2013 If I would have known he was any of those things I would not have moved forward with him. I want to know what to do about healing and moving forward....
andilyn1 Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 I really wish I had some advice on how to stop thinking of him. But I'm in the same boat right now. My ex physically abused me two weeks ago, yet all I do is think of him daily, hourly more like it. I think of all the good times. It hurts so much. I miss him so much, and since we lived together, we saw each other everyday. I just want you to know you aren't alone. There are so many of us hurting right now. Try and hang in there girl. Time heals all wounds. I know it seems impossible when all you can do is think of that person. Big hugs to you. We can get through this.
CaliBabe Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 And this ladies and gentleman is why you do NC right at the moment of a breakup.
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