will_woman Posted October 17, 2004 Share Posted October 17, 2004 How long does it take for a person to heal her/his wounds inflicted from a marriage breakdown? One year ago, my husband cheated on me and decided to go for the new woman. Now, we are still in the law suit as I contested to his lies about our divorce. It is really heart-breaking to see someone who I loved so much, who say so many lies about the divorce, so that he can get off the marriage hook w/o paying much. He is trying to go on anulment. SO matter drags...... Last night, I still cried when I was lying on bed, recalling all those bad memories....... I thought to myself that my emotions still swinging as the D matter not settled yet? Will there be a day when I will feel nothing about him again? Link to post Share on other sites
Scott S Posted October 18, 2004 Share Posted October 18, 2004 Originally posted by will_woman Will there be a day when I will feel nothing about him again? You will never "feel nothing" again. He has been a part of your life, and you will always have feelings of some kind, good or bad. I divorced in 1992. Although I consider my ex a part of my past, there are remnants of that relationship that still influence my attitude & behavior. Some good, some bad. What you are feeling now is perfectly normal. Sadness, betrayal, & everything else. I'm sorry to hear your erstwhile husband is dragging this out so long. Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted October 18, 2004 Share Posted October 18, 2004 Everyone heals at a different pace. Just try to go out and have fun, get your mind off of him. It will not be easy, but it will only be harder if you don't try. Good Luck Link to post Share on other sites
scorpion123 Posted October 22, 2004 Share Posted October 22, 2004 Thanks for the advices....I do appreciate them. A few days ago, the bastXXX withdraw the anulment petition and he still wants the divorce (words from his lawyer). But that a**h*** is not willing to pay a single cent. So, things are back to square one....meaning going back to Day one when he mentioned D. Nothing has been solved yet. I guess he will keep quiet and not doing anything as he is staying in another country (with that woman). He thinks he can enjoy his "single life" and not going into divorce situation as costing him $$$. And the lawyer whom he engage like not very nterested in this matter. My friend suggests that I go and pressurize that a**h*** and make him do something about the divorce. BUt I think he might take advantage of the situation as he think I am in a rush. He should be in the rush as that woman is still around. Any advice? Or just leave the matter to my lawyer.....i shuld not be lifting my finger right? Sorry for my messy story. I can't organise the words...... Link to post Share on other sites
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