Sandyrara Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 We broke up 7 weeks ago tonight, after 2 years. We had grown distant (he's just finished his first year of law school, I quit the job we met through). He said the words, but I brought up the distance. We haven't spoken since, it was as peaceful as breakups get, and now I'm blocked on gchat?! I haven't even tried messaging him. Only once to confirm his apartment # before mailing back his keys. What do y'all think? Could this mean he's upset too? I understand why we had to breakup, but I really want to know of he's missing me at all. He doesn't have Facebook or any other social media. I figure gchat is my only way of ever hearing from him again.
Easyguy14 Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 We broke up 7 weeks ago tonight, after 2 years. We had grown distant (he's just finished his first year of law school, I quit the job we met through). He said the words, but I brought up the distance. We haven't spoken since, it was as peaceful as breakups get, and now I'm blocked on gchat?! I haven't even tried messaging him. Only once to confirm his apartment # before mailing back his keys. What do y'all think? Could this mean he's upset too? I understand why we had to breakup, but I really want to know of he's missing me at all. He doesn't have Facebook or any other social media. I figure gchat is my only way of ever hearing from him again. I think him blocking you is the answer. He doesn't wanna be bothered. He thought it over and probably needs to move on and by continuing to talk to you over the chat site its making it that much difficult.
Zahara Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 If he was upset, he would have blocked you when the break-up happened. Seven weeks have passed and it could be because he wants to move on and close that door. If that was his only way to be in contact with you and he's severed it, then it's pretty clear that he's putting it behind him. 2
Author Sandyrara Posted June 28, 2013 Author Posted June 28, 2013 I think I've been blocked since we broke up, actually. I noticed him online for 3 days, and then never since. And I haven't even tried chatting with him once? Why would he block me of I never once asked for him back or even tried to say hi? Im probably being so naive but it just doesn't make any sense to me
flitzanu Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 I think I've been blocked since we broke up, actually. I noticed him online for 3 days, and then never since. And I haven't even tried chatting with him once? Why would he block me of I never once asked for him back or even tried to say hi? Im probably being so naive but it just doesn't make any sense to me it doesn't have to make sense to you, it only has to make sense to him. he chose to block you, he is choosing not to be in any type of communication with you.
Zahara Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 I think I've been blocked since we broke up, actually. I noticed him online for 3 days, and then never since. And I haven't even tried chatting with him once? Why would he block me of I never once asked for him back or even tried to say hi? Im probably being so naive but it just doesn't make any sense to me It makes perfect sense that when a break-up happens, an ex may choose to remove you from their life, even if the break-up was civil. It doesn't matter whether you asked for him back and if you kept breaking NC. The fact that he has cut that one tie to you is your answer.
Author Sandyrara Posted June 28, 2013 Author Posted June 28, 2013 What doesn't make sense is that he said he didn't want to lose contact with me, and that he really trusted me and wanted to stay close friends. I get that people want to break ties after a breakup. What I'm wondering is whether this seems like he's cutting ties because he just doesn't care, or whether it's because blocking me will make it easier on him.
Zahara Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 What doesn't make sense is that he said he didn't want to lose contact with me, and that he really trusted me and wanted to stay close friends. I get that people want to break ties after a breakup. What I'm wondering is whether this seems like he's cutting ties because he just doesn't care, or whether it's because blocking me will make it easier on him. People always say that. But after time passes by and the attachment is lessened, those feelings that you once had about not wanting to lose each other and wanting to stay friends slowly fade, because as you move on, other people step into your life, feelings change and your outlook begins to shift into a new direction. Besides, most times dumpers say that to ease the guilt and to lessen the blow on the dumpee. He may be cutting ties because he does not care or he may be cutting ties because it's easier on him. Who knows. Both indicate a strong desire to move forward, which in turn should be your cue to stop analysing and move on as well.
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