Gingerxr2 Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 Struggling to stop myself unblocking her from my Facebook , so I can see how she's doing
Nyclovin Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 I actually defriended instead of blocked. Now if I want to see pics I have to request her back as a friend and that would be humiliating. I suggest yo defined her and not just block her. I am obsessed with finding new pics of her, but I'm coming to realize that no picture will make me happy and eventually one will make me down right angry.
TaraMaiden Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 Struggling to stop myself unblocking her from my Facebook , so I can see how she's doing De-friend her. better still.........
Nyclovin Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 Very funny Tara, I love it! Ever since my breakup all I've been doing is going on Facebook and even though I defended her and all of her friends still continue to find round about ways of trying to find pictures or any bits of information that I can find about her because I've decided that I can no longer contact her. It's sad but I look for any little shred of evidence that she is either okay or just a recent picture just to see her face I don't know what else to do at this point and I know that deleting Facebook is probably the best thing for me. It just seems that since I'm on no contact now for over two months after a five-year live-in relationship the only thing I can hope for is just a glimpse of her face or some type of picture to let me know that she's okay. Of course she has not bother contacting me either so who knows.
Author Gingerxr2 Posted June 28, 2013 Author Posted June 28, 2013 Very funny Tara, I love it! Ever since my breakup all I've been doing is going on Facebook and even though I defended her and all of her friends still continue to find round about ways of trying to find pictures or any bits of information that I can find about her because I've decided that I can no longer contact her. It's sad but I look for any little shred of evidence that she is either okay or just a recent picture just to see her face I don't know what else to do at this point and I know that deleting Facebook is probably the best thing for me. It just seems that since I'm on no contact now for over two months after a five-year live-in relationship the only thing I can hope for is just a glimpse of her face or some type of picture to let me know that she's okay. Of course she has not bother contacting me either so who knows. I feel your pain !! mine was a five year relationship , but it does go away . I guess it just comes and goes , but today is one of h]those bad days !! i de-friended her ages ago so all i could do was either phone her house, never going to happen or... stalk her on Facebook so i blocked her so i couldn't see , but there's that little part of me that needs to see if shes changed her pick to her and another bloke?? does that make sense?
SimonSerenade Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 If you can't handle the temptation, delete your Facebook and stay away from it until your over her, it doesn't matter what she's up to, chances are it's nothing special, people use Facebook to broadcast their life and unless your climbing mountains and traveling the world, it just looks stupid, stop the worship and forget her existence, it's the best thing you can do, right now your living in a reality that's been turned upside down and it's going to take some time for your world to return to the way it was but it will and when it does, I guarantee you, she won't mean a single thing to you.
Nyclovin Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 You both make a lot of sense. Facebook is BS and there is hardly anything important ever brocaded on there . What's more important was that look on her face and she packed my stuff after 5 years and asked me to move out not for anything I did but because she didnt love me enough to marry me when I asked. That was a month or so ago. Fun times!
SimonSerenade Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 That is hard man but if she wasn't happy and didnt love you enough for that kind of commitment then didnt you deserve better than that?, if you cared about her, try to respect her decision and the fact she tried to do what was best for her, I know it's not fair but some things in life never are, move along the best you can and find the girl that wants all you have to offer.
Nyclovin Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 Can't blame her for wanting the best for herself and after 5 years of living with her she decided that I was not it. Bitter pill to swallow, especially since I was under the impression that we were in love forever and never had a reason to doubt it until about 30 seconds after she asked me to leave and give her space to think . I knew right there , my life was changed forever, and I knew it I was in for a world of hurting . She had never until that point even suggested I sleep in the couch or stay with my parents or anything.in the next day or two I put together she was probably thinking about this for a while now, and I had no clue. I'm on NC for a month now at her request after begging and crying to her like a little punk for 2 weeks after she let me go. Still can't believe this happened as I sit on my new couch in my new place . Alone . As you said, life isn't fair and neither was she. 1
BrokenHeartedSavior Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 Ny, I can tell you this much from experience, sitting on YOUR new couch in YOUR new place will eventually become a GODSEND! You'll realize this is now YOUR life to do as YOU please! Oh- and one more thing, it won't always feel "lonely" Trust me.
SimonSerenade Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 The shock is probably the hardest to get over then it's finding acceptance and then it's down to just plain missing that person, if you ask me mate, I think she's missing out, there's nothing better in this world than finding the one you love and having the privilege of settling down with that person, don't think about what your missing with her, think about what your gaining without her, time to find perspective and time to reinvent yourself, think about meeting the next lady and all the exciting things a new relationship brings, who knows, this time a year or so from now, you could be happy and you could be living with the next lady in your life and goodness knows what else, life is full of surprises, when my ex from 3 years a to left me, I thought I would never love again, a year and a half later I'm in love with the best thing that ever walked through my door, yeah it didn't work out but I'm still looking forward to seeing what's next
Nyclovin Posted June 29, 2013 Posted June 29, 2013 That's great words of encouragement. It's great that you found someone a few months later. It is my couch in my place and I know am free to live my life. Only problem is, I wish she was here.
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