Insecure, low self-esteem... but only when in a relationship?

[lolitaa]

Hello. Lately, my bf and I have been fighting. Sometimes I say/do something out of insecurity which bothers him or he'll say/do something that makes me insecure or suspicious. The thing is, I only feel like this when my bf enters the equation. I'm confident, I value myself, and I think I'm an overall good person. But when I add my bf into the mix, I start to question myself.

 

What's wrong with me? Has anyone been in this situation before or am I just being stupid? Thanks in advance!

[A O]

What's wrong with me? Has anyone been in this situation before or am I just being stupid? Thanks in advance!

Plenty of people are in your position - highly competent in many facets of life but their relationships. Insecurity can be an off-shoot of ones upbringing especially if such behavior proves to be on-going and leads to history of troublesome relationships. Quick answer to this, if said insecurity becomes and on-going issue is to seek counseling centering on the trigger(s) that ignites insecure behavior.