Can a guy tell if a girl is desperate to have a boyfriend?

[buzzie2]

I have always heard that guys can tell if a girl is desperate a mile away. That being said, what are some signs that a guy can tell if a girl is lonely and desperate?

[Ninjainpajamas]

Well first off...if she's a girl

 

And secondly, if she's young.

[brandnew2]

Desperation is tough to hide, because it's basically a lifestyle for those who are going through it.

 

Men and women alike can smell desperation because there are just so many tells that lead to it.

 

Excessive texting is usually an easy giveaway in the early stages.

 

When I'm on an actual date, and the girl tries to ask me point blank what I think of her, or tries making plans for another date before the first one is over, I usually can smell desperation.

 

When I'm trying to get in a girl's pants and she tells me she only has sex when she's in a relationship, but then does it with me anyways, its a clear sign that she is desperate for a relationship.

 

There's so many more... but a lot of it really is subconscious.

[BeyondtheClouds]

Brandnew2,I would be interested in hearing about more of those signs.

[brandnew2]

Brandnew2,I would be interested in hearing about more of those signs.

 

I don't know if you're calling me out because you don't think I can actually provide the answers, or you genuinely want more of my input. I'll assume the latter for the sake of this post.

 

I generally interpret desperation to go hand in hand with overeagerness and insecurity. When I'm driving home from a first date and I get out of my car and see multiple "I had a great time!" "Can I see you again?" texts it reeks of desperation.

 

Another example is when someone is totally willing to compromise their morals and values for the sake of being with me. For instance I once met a girl who was a devoted born-again christian and said she would only date someone who shared her faith. When I revealed I was an atheist, she immediately changed her tune to a "we can make it work" vibe.

 

And of course, talking about being exclusive within the first few weeks of dating is generally pretty desperate.

 

I tend to deal with women who are either one extreme or the other though. It seems like if they're not jumping down my throat, they're being totally aloof. The other posters on here will project more of a happy medium when it comes to women.

[BeyondtheClouds]

Brandnew, thanks for your response. I am interested in a man's opinion. Sometimes we women think that we're just being friendly while the guy could be interpreting our behavior as desperate.

 

But the examples that you give, I would agree sound desperate.

 

But at what point would you think it's ok to start planning and initiating dates with a guy she's interested in?

 

When would it be ok to introduce the guy to family members, especially if they all live in the same town.

 

Becak when I lived in the same town as my parents,I thought nothing of introducing a guy to them. Now I realise that guys that weren't sure of their interest in me got worried and probably thought that I was desperate. And guys that wanted to rush the relationship took it as a sign that I was all in and when they figured out that I wasn't would accuse me of leading them on.

[Sunshine87]

I generally interpret desperation to go hand in hand with overeagerness and insecurity. When I'm driving home from a first date and I get out of my car and see multiple "I had a great time!" "Can I see you again?" texts it reeks of desperation.

 

I have never done this but is this really desperate? Sounds like a girl who just likes you. If you liked her too, you would be happy. Obviously multiple texts are excessive.